EPISODE · Apr 29, 2025 · 1H 4M
10: The New Rules: Sex & Dating in Your 30
from Oh Hey Best Fren · host Vernika & Monique
Whew! This one is for the grown folks. In this bold, honest, and hilarious sit-down, the girls are pulling back the curtain on what sex, dating, and relationships really look like in your 30s—and spoiler alert: it’s giving clarity, confidence, and zero tolerance for nonsense. They’re unpacking everything from why the 90-day rule might be outdated, to how your expectations and non-negotiables change as you evolve. This convo dives deep into emotional maturity, communication in and out the bedroom, and why “doing the work” isn’t just therapy talk—it’s real life when you’re trying to build or maintain something meaningful. They touch on redefining intimacy, learning your needs, and owning your pleasure without shame or pressure. Whether you’re single and dating, in a situationship, or navigating something long-term, this episode will have you laughing, nodding, and maybe even rethinking your current standards. It’s grown-girl talk with heart, humor, and hella honesty—just how we like it. So light the candles, pour a lil’ something, and let’s get into it. KEY POINTS - The new rules of sex and dating in your 30s - The concept of the 90-day rule - Preference? Quality and quantity in relationships - Balance between “waiting” and “trusting” in relationships - Shifting bedroom dynamics (and preferences) - The importance of reciprocity and non-negotiable in sex - Being in 30s – societal influences and pressure - Post-intimacy behavior and hygiene - Best Friend Mail: My friend seems to be changing… QUOTES “As I get older, you just kind of like, have a standard about things. You start having a standard, and you look at people like… ‘What are we doing? Like, this has got to be intentional.” “Confidence comes with age. Now that I'm more mature and I'm in my 30s, I'm very vocal about the things that I like.” “If it's truth, it's just truth. I'm going to just speak on it, and I'm not going to try to make her feel away – but I’m going to express my concern and try to prevent her from falling or making a mistake if I can.” Follow Us, Besties! IG | @ohheybestfren Have something on your mind? Share your story or ask for advice! Drop us an email at [email protected] Hey Best Fren is produced by EPYC Media Network
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Whew! This one is for the grown folks. In this bold, honest, and hilarious sit-down, the girls are pulling back the curtain on what sex, dating, and relationships really look like in your 30s—and spoiler alert: it’s giving clarity, confidence, and zero tolerance for nonsense. They’re unpacking everything from why the 90-day rule might be outdated, to how your expectations and non-negotiables change as you evolve. This convo dives deep into emotional maturity, communication in and out the bedroom, and why “doing the work” isn’t just therapy talk—it’s real life when you’re trying to build or maintain something meaningful. They touch on redefining intimacy, learning your needs, and owning your pleasure without shame or pressure. Whether you’re single and dating, in a situationship, or navigating something long-term, this episode will have you laughing, nodding, and maybe even rethinking your current standards. It’s grown-girl talk with heart, humor, and hella honesty—just how we like it. So light the candles, pour a lil’ something, and let’s get into it. KEY POINTS - The new rules of sex and dating in your 30s - The concept of the 90-day rule - Preference? Quality and quantity in relationships - Balance between “waiting” and “trusting” in relationships - Shifting bedroom dynamics (and preferences) - The importance of reciprocity and non-negotiable in sex - Being in 30s – societal influences and pressure - Post-intimacy behavior and hygiene - Best Friend Mail: My friend seems to be changing… QUOTES “As I get older, you just kind of like, have a standard about things. You start having a standard, and you look at people like… ‘What are we doing? Like, this has got to be intentional.” “Confidence comes with age. Now that I'm more mature and I'm in my 30s, I'm very vocal about the things that I like.” “If it's truth, it's just truth. I'm going to just speak on it, and I'm not going to try to make her feel away – but I’m going to express my concern and try to prevent her from falling or making a mistake if I can.” Follow Us, Besties! IG | @ohheybestfren Have something on your mind? Share your story or ask for advice! Drop us an email at [email protected] Hey Best Fren is produced by EPYC Media Network
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