EPISODE · Jan 7, 2022 · 21 MIN
10 Things That Suggest Your Relationship Isn't As Good As You Make Out
from The Relationship Guy
We often tell ourselves and others that our relationship with our partner is far stronger than it really is, but as John discusses in this first show of the year, it might be time for a reality check. KEY TAKEAWAYS As we move through a relationship, we tend to accumulate more and more in the way of emotional anchors, such as children or financial arrangements. These can act as a block when it comes to motivating ourselves to leave an unhappy relationship. Often, when we are unhappy, we lose ourselves in other tasks such as work or physical activities. This is known as an avoidance tactic. When we look for external reasons to rationalise or justify our situation, we end up bypassing the root cause of the problems. Projection is something that is often used to shield us from difficult feelings that may overwhelm us. This causes us to remain in a denial space where we are simply trying to convince ourselves to remain. BEST MOMENTS 'People stick together even though they are unhappy' 'We go into what is known as an ego defence' 'These strategies help us to minimise our emotions' 'Denial is a great avoidance strategy' VALUABLE RESOURCES Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy ABOUT THE HOST I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose. CONTACT METHOD Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach} YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ Clubhouse - @relationshipguy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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We often tell ourselves and others that our relationship with our partner is far stronger than it really is, but as John discusses in this first show of the year, it might be time for a reality check. KEY TAKEAWAYS As we move through a relationship, we tend to accumulate more and more in the way of emotional anchors, such as children or financial arrangements. These can act as a block when it comes to motivating ourselves to leave an unhappy relationship. Often, when we are unhappy, we lose ourselves in other tasks such as work or physical activities. This is known as an avoidance tactic. When we look for external reasons to rationalise or justify our situation, we end up bypassing the root cause of the problems. Projection is something that is often used to shield us from difficult feelings that may overwhelm us. This causes us to remain in a denial space where we are simply trying to convince ourselves to remain. BEST MOMENTS 'People stick together even though they are unhappy' 'We go into what is known as an ego defence' 'These strategies help us to minimise our emotions' 'Denial is a great avoidance strategy' VALUABLE RESOURCES Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy ABOUT THE HOST I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose. CONTACT METHOD Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach} YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ Clubhouse - @relationshipguy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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