14 | Sabotaging Love: Am I the Problem?

Do you find yourself pushing people away just when things start to feel real? Do you pick fights, ghost, or suddenly lose interest? If so, you might be caught in the cycle of self-sabotage when it comes to love.In this episode, Christina breaks down why we sabotage relationships, from fear of abandonment to hyper-independence, low self-worth, and even addiction to the chase. She helps you recognize these patterns and, most importantly, teaches you how to stop repeating them.Tune in to uncover what’s really behind your self-sabotaging behaviors and learn how to finally break free from dating déjà vu. Because maybe, just maybe… it’s not déjà vu—it’s you.💡 If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend and don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe!Let's connect:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcastTimestamps:00:00 Intro00:10 Why We Self-Sabotage In Love01:22 Common Reasons For Self-Sabotage01:53 Fear Of Abandonment03:08 Fear Of Losing Independence05:17 Low Self-Worth07:21 Addiction To The Chase08:31 How Self-Sabotage Plays Out In Dating08:47 Picking Fights Over Small Things10:49 Hyper-Focusing On Small Flaws12:15 Testing Your Partner14:26 Pulling Away When Things Get Good14:59 Falling For Unavailable People17:12 How To Stop Self-Sabotaging17:28 Get Honest With Yourself19:06 Recognizing Patterns Early19:36 Communicate Even When It’s Uncomfortable21:12 Reframe What Love Actually Is22:05 Coaching Therapy And Self-Work22:46 Writing Down Your Patterns23:36 Reflecting On Past Relationships24:04 Final Challenge And Closing Remarks24:39 Outro