16. the "I'll just do it myself" trap

16. the "I'll just do it myself" trap"I know how to do this, so I'll just do it." "I want to make sure it gets done right, so I'll do it myself." Sound familiar? This is hyper-independence - self-reliance to an unhealthy extent. In this episode, I tune into the energy of hyper-independence and share three messages: what independence actually means (doing your part, not everything), why you need to express expectations and allow collaboration, and why hyper-independence isn't a badge of honor - it's likely a defense mechanism. If you can't ask for help, struggle to delegate, and believe you have to do everything yourself, this episode is for you.---When I settled into meditation for receiving the topic for this episode, the topic showed itself as your independence.And the more I sat with that topic of your independence, it showed me that it was showing up as hyper-independence.What Is Hyper-Independence?Hyper-independence is self-reliance to an unhealthy extent.It's often present because you're wanting or needing to try to control your environment for many reasons. Maybe one is to avoid disappointment.But in any regard, this hyper-independence might have you not asking for help, not trusting, over-functioning, showing up in perfectionism, not delegating, and even isolating.And it can lead to burnout, stress, strain on your relationships professionally and personally, and emotional neglect of your own emotions.You're Not Alone in ThisHyper-independence can be seen often in the realm of high achievers. It's not uncommon that a high achiever has turned to hyper-independence to get things done, to get them done well, to get where they want to go.It's actually pretty common.So if this idea of hyper-independence applies to you, you are so not alone. This is quite common, and it's just a matter of being aware of it and addressing it as you can and as you're comfortable.I received three messages for you. Here's what came through.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR:00:00 Introduction to The Unraveling Achiever00:41 What Is Hyper-Independence?02:19 Message One: Independence Means Doing Your Part, Not Everything04:29 Message Two: Express Expectations and Allow for Collaboration08:35 Message Three: Hyper-Independence Is Not a Badge of Honor11:15 Reflection & Practical Guidance13:21 Soul ReadingTHIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:You have a tough time asking for helpYou believe you need to do everything yourselfYou don't trust others to get it done rightYou lean into perfectionism and over-functioningYou find it really difficult to delegateYou feel burned out, stressed, or emotionally disconnectedYou wear your self-sufficiency as a badge of honor but secretly feel exhaustedRESOURCES MENTIONED:No external resources mentioned in this episode.---READY TO GO DEEPER?If what you heard today resonated, I'd love to support you in going deeper.Soul Reading is a 75-minute one-on-one session where I open your Akashic Records and help you reconnect with what your soul already knows about your path, your purpose, and what's next.Learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ---LET'S STAY CONNECTED:Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@angelamckayllc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Angela McKay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Career Revival⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠---ABOUT THE PODCAST:The Unraveling Achiever is for the person who's done everything "right" and is questioning what that even means. Host Angela McKay - former SVP of HR turned intuitive career coach and soul reading practitioner - helps accomplished folks stop defaulting to what looks good and start building what feels true. You don't have to turn your life upside down. Just point your achiever energy toward a soul-led career and life you'll love.