18: Resilience: How to Raise Kids Who Bounce Back

In this episode of The Tri-Star Podcast, Professor Brumitt and Professor Beane build on last week’s conversation about comfort—and explain the skill that grows when kids face discomfort the right way: resilience. Not toughness. Not emotional suppression. Resilience is the ability to recover—to feel disappointment, embarrassment, or frustration and still return, try again, and stay engaged.You’ll hear why modern kids often struggle to bounce back (fewer unstructured challenges, more adult intervention, faster entertainment, less boredom, and fewer natural consequences), and why removing obstacles doesn’t build strength—it builds fragility. Then we share the “controlled adversity” model inside the Tri-Star studio and a simple, practical framework parents can use in real time: normalize the feeling, ask a growth question, and redirect to the next step.Listen or watch here: https://tristarkarate.com/podcasts/New episodes drop every Wednesday. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tristarkarate.substack.com