18 | Self-Sabotage Disguised as Standards: Are Your Boundaries Actually Walls?

You say you have high standards. But is it really self-respect or self-sabotage in disguise?In this episode, you’ll learn how to tell the difference between standards that protect your peace and walls that block your connection. Christina dives into the origin of emotional walls, how hyper-independence masks emotional wounds, and how to open up to love without losing yourself.If you're constantly picking people apart, lonely but fiercely independent, or afraid others won’t approve of who you choose to love—this episode is your wake-up call.Let's connect:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast00:00 Intro01:02 Standards or walls01:43 Christina’s checklist02:28 Healthy standards vs emotional walls03:15 Client examples04:31 Canceling and catching the ick05:12 Where walls come from07:17 Hyper-independence08:18 Boundaries vs walls09:06 Cost of emotional walls10:31 Their high standards hurt too12:06 Standards that aren’t yours13:05 Questions to ask14:08 Real boundaries vs armor15:09 Let them show up16:42 Pause before protection17:54 Your mantra18:10 Outro