EPISODE · Mar 19, 2026 · 22 MIN
19 | Why You´ll Lose Your Friends After Leaving High-Control Relationship
from The Messy Middle Podcast · host Erika Leon
No one prepares you for this part. You think leaving the relationship will be the hardest thing… until your world starts getting smaller in ways you didn’t expect.In this raw and honest episode, I dive into the social fallout that often follows leaving a narcissistic or high-control relationship. The friendships that fade. The family members who stay neutral. The quiet distance. The subtle disbelief. The gut-punch comments like “it takes two.”And the part that hurts the most? Wondering if it’s somehow your fault.I break down why this happens, not to scare you, but to free you from the shame spiral that so many women fall into when their support system shifts or disappears.Inside this episode, wcovers:Why you may lose up to 80% of your social circle after leavingHow “neutrality” often protects the person who caused harmThe role of bystander inaction and why people don’t step upSecondary isolation and why leaving can feel just as lonely as stayingThe subtle ways people question your reality and how that impacts your healingWhy some friendships were built on proximity, not depthThe unexpected clarity and empowerment that can come from this lossThis isn’t just about grief. It’s about rebuilding.Because while this phase can feel deeply lonely, it’s also where you start choosing differently. Where you stop performing, stop appeasing, and start aligning with what actually feels safe, real, and true.If your world got smaller after you left, this episode will help you understand why… and remind you that you didn’t make the wrong choice.You didn’t lose everything.You’re making space for something better.📩 Send in YOUR questions and get them answered on the podcast!📢 Get a Laster Coaching call for only $150. A 45-minute session to get to know me, experience my approach, and receive a personalized plan to kickstart your healing journey. Perfect for testing the waters before diving deeper.🎬 Watch Unfu*kwithable Boundaries Masterclass for FREE. Learn how setting clear boundaries can change your life for good and where to start! 📝 Get the Somatic Keys Course. Learn how to recognize your signals, regulate your responses, and reclaim your nervous system as a place of truth.
What this episode covers
No one prepares you for this part. You think leaving the relationship will be the hardest thing… until your world starts getting smaller in ways you didn’t expect. In this raw and honest episode, I dive into the social fallout that often follows leaving a narcissistic or high-control relationship. The friendships that fade. The family members who stay neutral. The quiet distance. The subtle disbelief. The gut-punch comments like “it takes two.” And the part that hurts the most? Wonderin...
NOW PLAYING
19 | Why You´ll Lose Your Friends After Leaving High-Control Relationship
No transcript for this episode yet
Similar Episodes
No similar episodes found.
Similar Podcasts
No similar podcasts found.