2. Can you make it work as good parents, but a "bad" couple?

⚡️ This dynamic is not talked about enough, and I think there is a huge proportion of marriages that last a long time because the primary focus is the kids. But the couple gets lost in the busyness of life. Focusing on being good parents, but the function of the couple is not happening anymore. You lose sight of each other. Then kids grow up, and you realise you're strangers to each other. You grow apart. Women who have been doing their self-development work often grow at an exponentially faster rate than their partners. And then you look back at who you were when you got together, and you realise that you're a completely different person. 📌 Through the self-development work, you start decentering men, marriage and family as an ultimate form of fulfilment. And you start centering your own fulfilment that goes beyond that. So your partner struggles to adjust to this new you. And sometimes that gap in growth becomes too difficult to overcome. Because you spend years growing. But not together. 📌 You grow separately, in parallel, but not as a couple. You don't consolidate all these experiences as a couple. This "growing apart" sneaks in so easily, and a decade or two later, you find yourself being strangers to each other. ⚡️ There are certain ways you can make it work. 🔻 One is by abandoning all that growth you did and all the new desires, ambitions, and dreams for yourself. 🔻 The second one is by assessing how much you're able to work it out as a couple. Figuring out whether there are enough touch points between the two of you, whether your goals for the future still look the same and whether your values still align. ‼️ It will depend on whether your partner can accept you as the new you and is willing and able to work on himself to be the match to this new version of you. It's up to you to decide how long you can wait for that to happen. 📌 Your role is not to demand that they change, but to communicate what you need at this stage of life. 📌 It is your husband's responsibility to decide whether he wants to do it, to take matters into his own hands and do the necessary steps for that to happen. I can't tell you what to do; that is up to you. I personally would initiate that uncomfortable conversation and share how I envision our life moving forward, and then take it from there. If you are looking for support in making that decision and clarifying what your next steps are, regardless of the decision, apply for a free exploration call with me to see in which capacity I can support you. 👉🏼 Apply here https://bit.ly/form-call***📌 In the next episode - Can you make it as good parents, but a "bad" couple👉🏼 Sign up to Intuition vs Ego Guide ⁠https://enathecoach.com/intution-ego/⁠ (FREE)👉🏼 Website ⁠https://enathecoach.com/⁠✳️ Connect with me:YouTube ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@enathecoach/⁠Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thedivineawakener/⁠TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@enathecoach⁠Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/ena.bautista/