20 | Rebuilding Self-Trust After Manipulation & Abuse

If you've ever walked away from a controlling or abusive relationship and found yourself completely frozen over the smallest decisions — what to wear, whether to text someone back, what to order for lunch — this episode is for you.It's not just that you stop trusting them after manipulation, control, or abuse. You stop trusting yourself.And that's the part nobody really talks about. Your internal compass gets scrambled. Not because you're broken, but because you were trained to override it. Over time, the loudest voice in your head stops being yours. It becomes theirs. And once you understand that, everything starts to make a little more sense.In this episode, we cover:Why making even basic decisions can feel debilitating after leaving a controlling relationshipHow self-trust gets eroded slowly and quietly, not all at onceWhy that harsh inner critic voice is often not yours, and whose it actually isWhy big, dramatic reinventions won't rebuild self-trust, and what actually willHow to use micro-decisions as daily medicine for your nervous systemWhat the freeze response really looks like, and how to gently bring choice back onlineThe guilt wave that shows up when you start putting yourself first A simple end-of-day journaling practice to start reconnecting with your own signalsYou don't rebuild self-trust with grand gestures or sweeping life overhauls.You rebuild it by choosing your lunch for the right reasons, leaving when you said you would, or following a tiny impulse and noticing how your body responds.It's unsexy. It's repetitive. And it is some of the most radical work you will ever do.You didn't lose your intuition. It just hasn't been listened to in a very long time. Let's change that.📩 Send in YOUR questions and get them answered on the podcast!📢 Get a Laster Coaching call for only $150. A 45-minute session to get to know me, experience my approach, and receive a personalized plan to kickstart your healing journey. Perfect for testing the waters before diving deeper.🎬 Watch Unfu*kwithable Boundaries Masterclass for FREE. Learn how setting clear boundaries can change your life for good and where to start! 📝 Get the Somatic Keys Course. Learn how to recognize your signals, regulate your responses, and reclaim your nervous system as a place of truth.