22 | What If You’re the Problem in Your Relationships?

Let's talk about the unconscious patterns that might be sabotaging your relationships in today's episode. It’s not about shame, it’s about ownership. From unspoken expectations to emotional hijacking and trauma-driven “gut feelings,” Christina walks you through the real reasons love might keep slipping through your fingers, and how to finally break the cycle.If you’ve ever said “they just don’t get me” or felt like you’re always the one chasing love that never lands, this one’s for you! Tune in now!Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0Let's connect:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast00:00 Intro01:30 It’s easy to point fingers, but what if it’s you repeating the same patterns?02:46 Stop expecting psychic partners: Love is built on communication, not energy reading04:24 Relationship red flag #1: Loving someone for their potential06:23 Red flag #2: Shutting down emotionally to control the narrative08:03 Red flag #3: Hijacking the emotional climate of the relationship09:09 Personal story: When love still protects toxicity11:08 Red flag #4: Mistaking anxiety for intuition14:10 Trauma vs. truth: How to know if your gut is real or reactive15:20 Red flag #5: Keeping a receipt of every mistake16:57 Red flag #6: Everyone knows your relationship drama—except your partner18:24 Are you unconsciously sabotaging intimacy by trying to protect yourself?19:55 The breakthrough: Loving with more responsibility20:35 Reflective questions to build emotional safety20:45 Coaching offers