26| The Scripture is About Connection | Attachment II

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Today, we're continuing our conversation with Attachment Theory--or how we bond in initial relationships, and then learn to set boundaries as we grow.
Brandon will bring the pastoral perspective today.
A Review:
"Attachment" how our relationships and how we "bond" throughout our life begins with our first caregivers, and how they take care of our physical needs, soothe us when we're stressed, and take delight in us in our childhood.

Ephesians 4 NLT
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians+4&version=NLT

From "How We Love" by Milan & Kay Yerkovich
"Secure Connectors..., are comfortable with reciprocity; balanced giving and receiving in relationships.They can describe strengths and weakness in themselves and others without idealizing or devaluing. Skilled at self-reflection, Secure Connectors are able to clearly and easily communicate their feelings and needs."
(www.howwelove.com)

From the pastoral perspective, that's what Scripture is about. Adam needing attachment, Man made in image of God. God desires union, and created us to be in union with Him. Ends with all creation caught up in this restorative movement of heaven on earth.

Romans 8-
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans+8&version=NLT

"…Classically, there are three ways in which humans try to find transcendence …. through the ecstasy of alcohol and drugs, through the ecstasy of recreational sex, though the ecstasy of crowds. "
Eugene Peterson

James 1:27 NLT
Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.

Matthew 3:16-17 NLT
After his baptism, as Jesus came up out of the water, the heavens were opened and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and settling on him. And a voice from heaven said, "This is my dearly loved Son, who brings me great joy."

Our work is to BELIEVE that we can be securely connected to God, even though we haven't experienced how fully we are loved yet.

Luke 5:16 NLT
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=luke+5%3A16&version=NLT

A few practices we mentioned:
Sitting in silence, thinking about God's Love, or Presence, or something that's come up about Him in the past week.

And

While trying to pray, notice the things that "distract" you. Noticing them, and ask Jesus "what do you want me to notice?"

The Gratitude Ladder
Sit somewhere quiet.
Breathe deeply.
Notice your thoughts, and let them go.

-The Good:
Be thankful for the things that easily come to mind.
Let your heart savor & delight in those things for a few moments.
Notice the shift in your brain.

-The Bad:
Bring to mind some sort of challenging situation, that's harder to give thanks for.
Not because it doesn't feel good, but because in the midst of it, your soul is being matured & transformed.
Through this thing, something eternal is being built in you.

-The Ugly:
Give thanks for some part of you that you don't like. A habit that you want to overcome, that you judge about yourself.
Don't give thanks for it because it's good, or good for you, but give thanks that God still says yes over you. So you can say "God, how can you be so good that I can still be loved even with this habit."

Sit again in silence for a moment.
Notice your breathing.