29 | Why Healing After Abuse Takes Longer Than You Think

How long should healing take after narcissistic abuse? What if you're still thinking about it years later?If you've ever caught yourself thinking, "I should be over this by now," this episode is for you.One of the biggest traps survivors fall into isn't staying stuck. It's believing they shouldn't still be affected by what happened. Society expects you to move on, stop talking about it, and become the "better" version of yourself on someone else's timeline. But recovering from emotional abuse isn't the same as getting over a normal breakup.In this episode, I explore why that quiet pressure to "just move on" creates shame, why healing after betrayal and coercive control is far more complex than people realize, and why you're not failing simply because you're still making sense of what happened.You'll learn:Why the thought "I should be over this by now" is so common after narcissistic abuseHow society pressures survivors to recover in ways that make everyone else more comfortableWhy emotional abuse isn't just heartbreak. It's the collapse of trust, identity, safety, and reality itselfWhy your ex appearing "fine" says nothing about your healingThe powerful question to ask instead of "Why am I not over this yet?"If you've been judging yourself for still feeling angry, grieving, confused, or deeply affected months or even years later, this conversation will remind you of one important truth:You're not healing on the wrong timeline. You're healing from something that changed your entire reality.📩 Send in YOUR questions and get them answered on the podcast!📢 Get a Laster Coaching call for only $150. A 45-minute session to get to know me, experience my approach, and receive a personalized plan to kickstart your healing journey. Perfect for testing the waters before diving deeper.🎬 Watch Unfu*kwithable Boundaries Masterclass for FREE. Learn how setting clear boundaries can change your life for good and where to start! 📝 Get the Somatic Keys Course. Learn how to recognize your signals, regulate your responses, and reclaim your nervous system as a place of truth.