3: Why “More Effort” only creates more tension, and the one thing that actually creates true healing with Erin Liefeld

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things… but still not feeling the way you thought you would, this episode is for you. You’ll understand why on an energetic level and get a totally different perspective on why your efforts actually tend to keep you right where you are.  In this conversation with my mentor Erin, we explore the real mechanics behind healing, emotional patterns, and why so many women feel stuck in cycles of trying, tension and exhaustion. Erin explains her path into the world of energy and how she uses kinesiology and presence as the path to steady, embodied movement.  We dive into: Why “trying harder” often keeps you stuck The difference between goals and intentions How unresolved emotions from childhood shape your identity Why you feel overwhelmed, disconnected or like you’re not doing enough And what actually creates real movement and change One of my favourite parts of this conversation is the reminder that you can’t skip steps in your healing. You don’t go from A to Z. When we’re honest we just shuffle slowly from A… to B… to C. And the more you can be fully where you are (instead of trying to get somewhere else) the more things begin to shift naturally. This episode isn’t about doing more. It’s about understanding why “doing” isn’t working… and how connection, compassion and presence are the only things that will actually move you forward.Timestamps: 00:00 Warm Welcome 00:41 What Is Kinesiology 03:11 Goals Versus Intentions 06:17 From Goals To Connection 13:40 Inner Child And Resistance 18:17 Why Emotions Get Stuck 25:11 Tension And Trying 28:50 Connection Over Techniques 33:10 Erin’s Connectivity Practices 37:32 Origin Story Begins 39:29 Melbourne Kinesiology Calling 41:33 Studying and Mentorship 44:04 Respect the Calling 44:59 Mother Not Practitioner 50:40 Holding Big Emotions 55:15 No Parenting Ideals 57:57 Tribe and Compassion 01:03:59 Alphabet Steps Not Leaps 01:06:50 Be Where You Are 01:08:25 Rapid Fire and Farewell Where to Find Erin: Calendar link: https://calendly.com/erinliefeld/online-sessions-2025?back=1&month=2026-05   Practice with me online Website: ⁠www.melissakitchen.com⁠ Membership: ⁠https://www.melissakitchen.com/more-energy-membership Instagram: @melissa.energetics