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EPISODE · Apr 6, 2026 · 53 MIN

33. Too Intentional to Rush - Slow Living, Hustle Culture and Why Your Nervous System Needs You to Stop

from Too Much, Apparently · host Alice Tew and Carly Radford

Ever felt like you're too intentional to rush but still guilty for not doing more, achieving more, becoming more?Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice, two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get honest about hustle culture, slow living, and what happens when you look up mid-sprint and think, "wait, where am I even rushing to?"We unpack our own complicated relationships with busyness, admit we've both absolutely ignored our own advice, and talk about what it actually looks like to choose a slower, more intentional life, especially when the world keeps telling you that's not enough.This time we talked about:🎙 We've felt this thing too (and we still do): burnout amnesia, banning ourselves from working on Wednesdays, edging forwards at traffic lights even though it gets you absolutely nowhere👀 What it looks like in real life: rushing through your favourite meal and forgetting to taste it, always being onto the next thing before the current thing is even finished, keeping yourself so busy you never have to sit with your own head🧠 Why our brains do it: self-worth tied to productivity, childhood conditioning, generational messaging about hard work ethic, and busyness as a very effective way of avoiding uncomfortable feelings🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: the boom and bust cycle (hello, neurodivergent brains), performing busyness like a badge of honour, never quite giving yourself permission to stop unless you're already on the floor🧰 Coping mechanisms: structuring your week around your actual capacity, embracing JOMO (joy of missing out), taking a proper slow walk, choosing to be somewhere intentionally rather than just "popping in," cheap flowers from Sainsbury's that last a whole week🌱 How to make peace with it: you're not too slow. The world is just moving too fast. And you get to decide which pace is actually yours.Thanks for listening           💛💜🩷🩵🧡💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice📩 Email us: [email protected] 🗓️ New episodes every MondayThis is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

Ever felt like you're too intentional to rush but still guilty for not doing more, achieving more, becoming more?Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice, two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get honest about hustle culture, slow living, and what happens when you look up mid-sprint and think, "wait, where am I even rushing to?"We unpack our own complicated relationships with busyness, admit we've both absolutely ignored our own advice, and talk about what it actually looks like to choose a slower, more intentional life, especially when the world keeps telling you that's not enough.This time we talked about:🎙 We've felt this thing too (and we still do): burnout amnesia, banning ourselves from working on Wednesdays, edging forwards at traffic lights even though it gets you absolutely nowhere👀 What it looks like in real life: rushing through your favourite meal and forgetting to taste it, always being onto the next thing before the current thing is even finished, keeping yourself so busy you never have to sit with your own head🧠 Why our brains do it: self-worth tied to productivity, childhood conditioning, generational messaging about hard work ethic, and busyness as a very effective way of avoiding uncomfortable feelings🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: the boom and bust cycle (hello, neurodivergent brains), performing busyness like a badge of honour, never quite giving yourself permission to stop unless you're already on the floor🧰 Coping mechanisms: structuring your week around your actual capacity, embracing JOMO (joy of missing out), taking a proper slow walk, choosing to be somewhere intentionally rather than just "popping in," cheap flowers from Sainsbury's that last a whole week🌱 How to make peace with it: you're not too slow. The world is just moving too fast. And you get to decide which pace is actually yours.Thanks for listening           💛💜🩷🩵🧡💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice📩 Email us: [email protected] 🗓️ New episodes every MondayThis is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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