362: Learning to Set Boundaries + Find My Voice in Parenting, Marriage and Beyond (My People Pleasing Journey)

What does healing from people-pleasing look like in real life, not just at the beginning, but years later? In this episode, I share my personal story of people-pleasing, where these patterns began for me, how God brought healing, and what it looks like now to live on the “maintenance side” of emotional healing. We talk about fear of abandonment, over-functioning in relationships, parenting adult children, nervous system vigilance, and the ongoing process of learning how to stay grounded in safety and trust instead of falling back into old survival patterns. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN [00:00] What Healing from People-Pleasing Actually Looks Like Over Time [03:00] The Fear Underneath My People-Pleasing Patterns [05:00] How Parenting Adult Children Triggered Old Patterns Again [07:00] Why People-Pleasing Is Really About Safety + Emotional Survival [10:00] The Family Roles That Quietly Shape Identity [13:00] How Childhood Survival Patterns Affect the Nervous System [16:00] The Medical Crisis That Forced Me to Look at These Patterns [19:00] Why Over-Functioning Can Feel Like Love [22:00] The Anchor Analogy God Keeps Bringing Me Back To [25:00] What It Means to Live on the “Maintenance Side” of Healing  RESOURCES: The People Pleasing Mindset Makeover is an 8-session one-on-one coaching process designed to help women understand the deeper roots of people-pleasing, rewire unhealthy patterns, and build healthier emotional responses through brain science, biblical truth, and practical tools. Learn more or apply here: 👉 AliciaMichelle.com/coaching RELATED EPISODES: Ep 359: People Pleasing: Is This the Real Reason You’re Exhausted + Overwhelmed? Ep 360: People Pleasing: When You’re the “Good Girl” Who Keeps the Peace in Your Family Ep 361: People Pleasing: Break the Cycle with Brain, Body + Biblical Tools for Less Exhaustion + Healthier RelationshipsSend us Fan Mail