365: Autistic Burnout & Self-Care, with Dr. Megan Anna Neff

Autistic burnout doesn't look like ordinary tiredness, and treating it that way can make everything harder for your child and for you. It shows up as exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix, sensory sensitivities that suddenly spike, and skills that seem to disappear overnight. In this episode, I sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Megan Anna Neff, founder of Neurodivergent Insights and an autistic and ADHD adult herself, to talk about what autistic burnout really is, how it shows up differently in kids than in adults, and why self-care for neurodivergent kids and parents has to look different than the version we were handed growing up.Dr. Neff walks us through the difference between a hard week and true burnout, why school is such a common trigger, and how nervous system regulation, sensory accommodations, and even something as simple as a visual schedule can change the whole trajectory of a child's day. We also dig into emotional regulation versus sensory overwhelm — two things that can look identical from the outside but need completely different responses from us — and why curiosity, not correction, is the move when your child's big feelings don't make sense to you yet.This conversation includes a deeply honest look at validation: what it actually sounds like, how easy it is to get wrong even with the best intentions, and why a child who hears "this is hard, and that makes sense" settles faster than one who hears "you've got this." Dr. Neff also shares the research behind why validating responses measurably lower the body's stress response, and what that means for the way we talk to our differently wired kids every day.If you've ever wondered whether your child is "too emotional" or just trying to tell you something your nervous system hasn't learned to hear yet, this episode will change how you listen. Tune in now to hear the full conversation.You can find additional resources at parentingadhdandautism.com and Regulated Kids.com — because it's not just about the struggles, it's about progress, one step at a time.Take the free quiz: parentingadhdandautism.com/quizSIGNAL Parenting™ program: parentingadhdandautism.com/signalShow notes and more resources at parentingadhdandautism.com/365Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/beautifully-complex--6137613/support.You can find additional resources at parentingadhdandautism.com. It's not just about the struggles, it’s about progress, one step at a time.