4. Death of a marriage by a thousand cuts

⚡️ Some of the stuff that bothers you might not seem like a big thing to a lot of people, because on the outside, everything looks ok. Nobody would even suspect that there is anything wrong. He’s not a bad guy. ⚡️ But, he doesn’t see you. He doesn’t notice the small stuff. Some of the things that bother you probably look frivolous to everyone else. ⚡️ But you are fed up. Empty. Depleted. And you just want to be seen for who you are. You’ve worked on yourself. You’ve tried to change things on your part. You’ve communicated your needs and what you actually need emotionally from him. ⚡️ And yet nothing has been done about it. All these years. He promised he will change things, he will put in more effort and intention. But there is no lasting change. It always goes back to the same dynamics. And it feels like you’re being taken for granted. You’ve tried not caring about it. Because he does so many other things. ⚡️ But that kind of emotional neglect bothers you. No matter how much you try to gaslight yourself into thinking that it doesn’t matter. That it doesn’t bother you. You will even develop coping mechanisms to not disappoint yourself by keeping your expectations low. ❓ But how long are you going to deny to yourself that you want a caring, loving and intentional partner? Yes, love for yourself starts from within. It has to come from you. It is ALSO reasonable to want to receive love, attention and effort from your husband. There is a healthy dose of interdependence on each other, in our marriages, relationships, friendships… We are social creatures. We are not supposed to be filling our own cup. And when you ask yourself whether that is enough ground for divorce, I think you know the answer to that. You need to get honest with yourself about what your capacity to wait is, and whether you still want to continue even if everything changed overnight. 📌 If you’re afraid to make that decision, or can’t make up your mind, and you’re still going in circles about it - let me help you work through it. ✳️ So you can figure out why you’re afraid to make a definitive decision, what’s making you resistant to look at this without the rosy glasses on. ✳️ So I can guide you to work through that discomfort, to teach you how to soothe your nervous system through it. ✳️ So I can support you when your nervous system wants to back out on your decisions. 👉🏼 Apply for a free exploration call here ⁠https://bit.ly/form-call⁠.***📌 In the next episode: Disclaimers for any men listening👉🏼 Sign up to Intuition vs Ego Guide ⁠https://enathecoach.com/intution-ego/⁠ (FREE)👉🏼 Website ⁠https://enathecoach.com/⁠✳️ Connect with me:YouTube ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@enathecoach/⁠Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thedivineawakener/⁠TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@enathecoach⁠Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/ena.bautista/- - - - - - - - - - - - DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A SOLICITOR IN YOUR AREA TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.