41. What Does a Soft Life Look Like for Black Women? | Healing Grind Culture for Our Daughters

In this episode of Behind the Throne, we are joined by Sherry Waters and Dr. Staisha Hamilton to explore what a soft life truly means, especially for Black women navigating motherhood, leadership, and legacy. Together, we unpack the difference between performative self-care and embodied stillness, discuss how softness can exist in small daily increments, and challenge generational beliefs that equate rest with laziness. This conversation invites you to redefine softness as self-preservation, model it for your daughters, and practice it in community.Dr. Staisha Hamilton is a Charlotte-based social worker and movement specialist , a former classically trained ballet dancer, who integrates dance, somatic awareness, and therapeutic practice to support holistic healing and nervous system regulation. Connect with Dr. Staisha Hamilton:Perry Counseling, Healing and RecoveryWithout Words LLC [email protected] Sherry Waters is a stewardship practitioner, community chaplain, spiritual companion, and community chaplain who nurtures mind-body-spirit connection through somatic spiritual practices and her work at Pauline T. Bar Apothecary in Charlotte.Connect with Sherry Waters:The Pauline Tea-Bar Apothecary WebsiteThe Pauline Tea-Bar Apothecary IGThe Pauline Tea-Bar Apothecary FBIEnate LLC WebsiteResources mentioned:All About Love by Bell Hooks3 Anchors for Embracing a Soft Life:Soft life is not self-care! Self-care is often external and task-based. Soft life is embodied stillness: a nourished inner state where your nervous system knows when to pause.Softness happens in small, sacred increments. Three quiet minutes in your car. A protected morning ritual. A quarterly retreat. Consistency, not extravagance, builds resilience.Model softness to break the cycle. When we practice stillness in real time, our daughters see it. Soft life becomes generational healing – not laziness, but legacy.Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Dr. Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!Connect with Us!: Podcast InstagramYouTubeCharlitta’s InstagramHelen’s InstagramSpero Hawk Coaching & Consulting