423: How to not crash out at work - with Hiba Tanvir

Let's be honest. Work can bring out parts of us we don't always love. The sharp email. The tense meeting. The moment you feel your face get hot and your patience leave the building. The instant when one more request, one more change, one more "quick question" feels like the thing that might finally push you over the edge. And in those moments, it can feel like your brain has gone offline. You're not thinking clearly. You're reacting. You're defending. You're spiraling. You're trying not to say the thing you'll regret later. In other words… you're trying not to lose your ish at work. My special guest today is Hiba Tanvir and she's simplifying how to not crash out at work. We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including: What emotional dysregulation can look like at work, and why it doesn't always show up as a big dramatic blow-up. The early signs we might notice in ourselves or others before we reach that breaking point.  What to do in the moment to regulate your nervous system before you react. When someone does crash out at work, what belongs to the manager, what belongs to the individual, and how both can respond with more care and accountability. What it means to "lend your calm and your cortex" when someone else is dysregulated. How her "Play & Pause" methodology can help us create just enough space to choose a better response. And in her chapter on emotional intelligence in the AI era, Hiba connects emotionally intelligent leadership to hope. So we talk about how leaders can use:  Self awareness - being aware of your needs, strengths and weaknesses Self management - what do I need in order to regulate? Social awareness - empathy and compassion for others, and reading the room - "empathy in action" Relationship-building - working together with others …to help people feel steadier, safer, and more hopeful at work. And why that is something AI simply cannot replace. Q: Are you wanting to not crash out at work? If yes, this one is for you. It's time to #DoTheThing! ---- Show notes available with all links mentioned here: https://www.thesimplifiers.com/posts/423-how-to-not-crash-out-at-work---with-hiba-tanvir