514: Moving On After Hurt

Today I'm talking about how to move on after you have been hurt. Whether it is heartbreak, betrayal, disappointment, family pain, friendship breakups, or someone not showing up the way you hoped they would, hurt is part of the human experience. But moving on is not always as simple as forgiving, forgetting, or pretending it did not matter. When we are hurt, the pain can linger, and if we do not know how to work with it, we can start living from the wound instead of from our healthy adult self. In this episode, I break down why we get stuck in pain, how the ego mind tries to loop, ruminate, and figure everything out, and why old wounds can make present-day hurt feel even more intense. I also walk you through how to move through hurt in a whole-body way by feeling your emotions, stopping the wait for an apology, getting honest about what the experience is teaching you, and letting the pain transform you instead of define you. Key Takeaways Moving on after hurt does not mean pretending it did not happen Hurt can change us, our relationships, and the way we see ourselves if we do not process it The mind often revisits what the heart has not yet resolved Rumination is the ego's attempt to figure out, fix, or control emotional pain Present-day hurt can activate older wounds, including childhood abandonment, betrayal, or shame If the pain feels disproportionate to what happened, there may be a deeper taproot wound underneath it Waiting for an apology can keep us stuck in pain, anger, and victim energy Feeling emotions fully allows the energy of the emotion to move through the body Healing requires getting radically honest about what the experience is teaching us Pain can transform us when we use it for growth instead of allowing it to define us Resources from this Episode: Get your copy of The Adult Chair® Book here!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant