55. Destroy the Fantasies

"When we become aware of the movies in our head, we do our children a great service.  We not only stop playing out our self-created fantasies, but we absolve our children of guilt and shame for not making our fantasies come true.  We release our children from the roles we cast them in, which are often not their voluntary choices, and instead help them to recast themselves in scripts that match who they truly are.  In doing so, we finally free our children from the clutches of our claustrophobic fantasies and allow them, uncaged, to fly into a sky of endless possibilities for their own destiny and authentic essence." - Dr. Shefali, "The Parenting Map"