6. When you can't leave because "he's such a good dad"

When you’re considering your pros and cons, and thinking of leaving, there is usually that moment that comes to your mind, “but how he’s such a good dad to our kids”. ⚡️And while I think this is a contributing factor, it’s also important to take a few more things into consideration. It is similar to what I talked about in the episode of “Death of a marriage by a thousand cuts” when there are no major issues in the marriage. 📌 He does all the dad things. But at the same time, he doesn’t express his appreciation towards you. He doesn’t carve out time so that you can have the opportunity to do the things that fill you up. ❓ Is he a good dad if he is normalising to his kids that you, as a woman, should abandon your identity to take care of everyone else? If that kind of treatment is normalising to your kids to see you as a servant. What kind of message does that send to your daughters? And your sons? ❓ If he makes jokes about you, but they are secretly jabs at your expense… Is that a valuable lesson for your kids? Because it sends the message that it is ok to make fun of mum. It sends a message that it is ok to pretend that you are joking when making fun of the other person. ‼️ If he’s not doing these things, and he is truly a great dad, do you still want to continue with the marriage, taking other things into consideration?🔸 Is preserving your marriage for the sake of your kids of higher importance for you than your own fulfilment? These are the questions you need to ask yourself. Because that is a completely valid reason to want to stay, if this is one of your highest values. 🔸 If you choose to do so, and you both decide to keep going for the sake of the kids, even if it means that neither of you is feeling fulfilled… Does that serve your kids, you or your partner?🔸 Can you stay congruent in your business, if there is a big part of your life where you are not honouring yourself and what you need?To what extent will this kind of energy impact your business? ‼️ If there are certain elements of this podcast that resonate with you, but you have so many other things to take into consideration… And you need someone to help you see your blind spots, to make order of the dozens of different thoughts and perspectives. Apply for a free exploration call with me to see in which capacity I can support you. Let me coach and guide you: ✳️ To gain clarity and make a definitive decision, and finally move forward rather than running in loops✳️ To guide you to figure out what decision takes priority for you based on your values✳️ To soothe your nervous system when it gets overwhelmed with the unknown and uncomfortable choices👉🏼 Apply for a free exploration call here ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/form-call⁠⁠.***📌 In the next episode: Can we save our marriage?👉🏼 Sign up to Intuition vs Ego Guide ⁠⁠https://enathecoach.com/intution-ego/⁠⁠ (FREE)👉🏼 Website ⁠⁠https://enathecoach.com/⁠⁠✳️ Connect with me:YouTube ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@enathecoach/⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/thedivineawakener/⁠⁠TikTok ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@enathecoach⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/ena.bautista/⁠***DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A SOLICITOR IN YOUR AREA TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.