7. "Can we save our marriage?"

The answer to this question will depend on a couple of different aspects, as I've mentioned in some of the other episodes. ⚡️ There are certain scenarios in which things can be fixed, and you can reconnect and reenergise your relationship. ⚡️From my observations, marriages can be fixed when these things apply:✅ When you are BOTH interested and committed to address and fix what needs to be attended to. ✅ When you are BOTH willing to put intentional effort into maintaining the relationship, putting intentional effort into connecting and addressing your shadow partsThat's the trap in which most married couples with kids fall into. You get busy with parental responsibilities, and then the moments when you're supposed to reconnect as a couple are left to chance. ❤️ Marriage is like a delicate ecosystem that needs nurturing and intentional effort in order for it to thrive. 📌 The couples that manage to make it work are the ones who have not let parenthood take over their whole identities. Who have assured that they, as a couple, still spend solo time. 📌 This is when it can work: ✳️ When there is love, respect and deep trust for one another, when you can rely on each other. ✳️ When the trust hasn't been broken, or there are no major resentments that have been built up between you two. ✳️ When you both have similar expectations from the marriage, and your worldviews about it haven't changed drastically. ✳️ When your idea of what your husband should provide, what his role in the marriage should be or how the marriage should work aligns with his. ✳️ Or if they've changed, when you can come to an agreement that this new dynamic is what you want to have moving forward. 📌 If you want to make it work, here are some pointers and suggestions to try:✳️ You have to remember that this new stage and new era of your relationship will have a completely different energy, and I would NOT recommend you try to go back to the old vibes. You both have grown and matured; your energetic blueprint is completely different all these years and decades later.✳️ Talk with an open heart and also remember the good things and positive qualities that got you together and what made you fall in love with each other. ✳️ Discuss your values, your future vision, goals and dreams you have for your life and your marriage. What aspects of the relationship are now more important to you than they were before?✳️ Make clear plans on how you're going to address shadow parts and who needs to work on which part of their shadow. ✳️ Determine clear deadlines and boundaries for moving forward and how you're going to deal with the situations when you eventually fall back into old habits. The resentment will come up, and the frustrations will surface. ❓ How are you going to handle those situations when one of you falls back into an old habit and old way of dealing with things, so that you don't end up dealing with it in a dysfunctional way? 👉🏼 That's what I can help you with. Apply for a free exploration call here 👉🏼  ⁠https://bit.ly/form-call⁠ to see in which capacity I can support you and whether we are a good fit to work together. ***📌 In the next episode: When you're conflicted with different opinions👉🏼 Sign up to Intuition vs Ego Guide ⁠https://enathecoach.com/intution-ego/⁠ (FREE)👉🏼 Website ⁠https://enathecoach.com/⁠✳️ Connect with me:YouTube ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@enathecoach/⁠Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thedivineawakener/⁠TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@enathecoach⁠Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/ena.bautista/***DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A SOLICITOR IN YOUR AREA TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.