8: The Green-Eyed Monster: Owning & Shifting Our Jealousy

"You Hate Me?!" Let’s talk about jealousy—because we’ve all been there. Scrolling through social media, side-eyeing that vacation pic, and feeling some type of way. But the real question is: what happens next? Vernika and Monique break down the difference between jealousy and envy—one’s a quick emotion, the other runs deep and gets real messy. And let’s be honest, it's been out here ending friendships. It starts with a little side-eye, turns into low-key shade, and before you know it, your so-called bestie is acting funny every time you win. Social media just adds fuel to the fire, serving up highlight reels that keep us stuck comparing.  Instead of letting it take over, they’re flipping the script—own your feelings, use them as motivation, and stop letting fake perfection mess with your peace. Sometimes, the best move is to just hit unfollow, log off, and remind yourself that what’s online is just a fairytale version of reality. Clock your emotions, change your mindset, and protect your energy—because being inspired is way better than being bitter.  KEY POINTS  - Likes to lowkey jealousy: Comparison culture - Emotional reactions to social media  - Difference between jealousy and envy - The impact of social media on emotions  - How comparison leads to materialism  - The concept of “celebration blockers” - Being authentic on social media  - Navigating financial differences in friendships  - Self-validation practices like journaling and reading - Live in gratitude, be authentic, and own YOUR emotions QUOTES  “Gratitude is the antidote. If you want to move away from jealousy, live in gratitude.” “Social media is a fairy world. It is a highlight reel of my life. I'm only putting my good moments on here. You're not seeing my bad moments.” “Once you understand your value and worth, you'll never sell yourself short again.” Follow Us, Besties!  IG | @ohheybestfren Have something on your mind? Share your story or ask for advice!  Drop us an email at [email protected]  Hey Best Fren is produced by EPYC Media Network