A Mid-30s ADHD Girlie Reset 📋 25 switch-ups for a Hot Girl 2025

⏱️ TIME STAMPS, TAKEAWAYS + PRACTICAL TIPS(00:00:03) – New Year Momentum (or lack thereof)* Theme: Resolutions lose steam fast* Takeaway: Wanting change is still valid even if motivation wanes—pivot into sustainable mindset shifts(00:00:42) – Out: Fawning & Fixing | In: Dignified Discomfort* Takeaway: You don’t owe fake niceness to people who are rude; choose integrity over people-pleasing* Practical Tip: In the moment, ask “What did you mean by that?” instead of laughing it off(00:03:18) – Out: Over-Researching | In: Step-by-Step Action* Takeaway: Research feels productive but can be a form of procrastination* Practical Tip: Identify just your next step—then do it. No more 27-tab rabbit holes(00:04:52) – Out: Perfectionism | In: Create & Ship* Takeaway: You don’t need to be a master to make meaningful work. Let taste mismatch be a teacher, not a blocker* Practical Tip: Make it “volume over vanity”—prioritize output over optics(00:06:22) – Out: Slowness | In: Speed* Takeaway: Close the gap between idea and execution. The faster you move, the more momentum you build* Practical Tip: Apply “money loves speed” to all areas—test fast, learn faster(00:07:11) – Out: Procrastination | In: Preparation* Story Time: Packing early for a flight completely changed her experience* Practical Tip: Shift from “last-minute mode” to “done-early ease”—future you will thank you(00:09:11) – Out: Need for Certainty | In: Tolerance for Ambiguity* Takeaway: Wanting guarantees keeps you on the bench. You grow by doing, not by knowing* Practical Tip: When you're hesitating, ask: “What if I just played the game today?”(00:11:10) – Out: Pie-in-the-Sky Goals | In: Micro Wins* Takeaway: Grand visions overwhelm ADHD brains. Focus on small, repeatable victories* Practical Tip: Win the day. Walk, cook at home, upload one video—stack tiny triumphs(00:12:21) – Out: Nighttime Scrolling | In: Nighttime Reading* Takeaway: End-of-day habits set the tone. Make evenings intentional, not dissociative* Practical Tip: Set a “Goblin Girl Hour” cap or sub in a physical book before bed(00:13:19) – Out: More | In: Better* Takeaway: Curation over accumulation. Love what you have = use and maintain what you have* Practical Tip: Touch everything you own this year. If you don’t love it, why keep it?(00:14:34) – Out: Instant Results | In: Reps & Progress* Takeaway: Mastery comes through iteration. Growth compounds when you stop chasing “the one”* Practical Tip: Make 100 good things instead of one perfect thing(00:15:46) – Out: Perfect First Draft | In: The Reissue* Takeaway: Release now, revise later. You’re allowed to evolve in public* Practical Tip: Think like an artist: drop the single, remix it later if needed(00:17:29) – Out: Rigid Routines | In: Minimum Viable Practices* Takeaway: Perfection collapses under pressure. Flexible consistency works better* Practical Tip: Anchor habits to needs—like “laundry when full” instead of “every Wednesday”(00:18:23) – Out: Complacency | In: Intention* Takeaway: Going with the flow can become passivity. Intention brings direction* Practical Tip: Ask: “Why am I doing this?” before you press play on autopilot(00:19:12) – Out: Rigidity | In: Surrender* Story Time: Letting go of needing to sit next to Gabe—and the universe made it happen* Practical Tip: Get clear on what you want. Let go of how it happens(00:20:44) – Out: Isolation | In: Community* Takeaway: People need people—even introverted extroverts* Practical Tip: Reach out. Nurture relationships. Join things. Create shared moments(00:21:28) – Out: Numbing | In: Presence* Takeaway: Zoning out can look like self-care, but it’s often a symptom of deeper dissatisfaction* Practical Tip: When you reach for a vice, ask yourself: “What am I avoiding feeling?”(00:22:34) – Out: Checkmark Mentality | In: Leverageable Action* Takeaway: Not all tasks deserve your time. Some are busywork dressed as productivity* Practical Tip: Ask: “Does this move the needle?” before doing a task(00:23:38) – Out: Emotional Sponge Mode | In: Clear Channel Flow* Takeaway: Feel everything, absorb nothing. Process what’s yours, let the rest pass through* Practical Tip: Try “label & release” journaling to move through amplified emotions(00:24:22) – Out: Bad Posture | In: Good Posture* Takeaway: Posture affects everything—even emotions, digestion, and jaw tension* Practical Tip: Tongue on roof of mouth. Shoulders relaxed. Realign as a form of self-respect(00:25:11) – Out: Optics | In: Essence* Takeaway: Prioritize how life feels, not how it looks. Be real, not performative* Practical Tip: Ask: “Am I doing this to feel good or look good?”(00:26:44) – Out: Scattered Spaghetti | In: Funneled Focus* Takeaway: Marry your passions into one container. Stack your skills, don’t scatter them* Practical Tip: Pick one “home base” project. Build depth before you branch(00:27:52) – Out: Raw Dogging Life | In: Taking Your Meds* Takeaway: If something helps you function better, it’s worth consistency—even if subtle* Practical Tip: Track how you feel with and without support. Patterns will reveal truth(00:29:00) – Out: Taking Life for Granted | In: Making It Magic* Takeaway: Even temporary things deserve reverence. Magic is made, not found* Practical Tip: Ask: “How can I honor today?” instead of waiting for someday(00:31:01) – Out: Settling | In: Luxury & Ease* Takeaway: You’re allowed to want more. Struggle isn’t required to be a good person* Practical Tip: Start small. Upgrade the candle. Use the good soap. Speak abundance daily(00:33:25) – In for 2025: Spiritual Connection* Takeaway: Reconnecting to a higher power can transform your energy, purpose, and peace* Practical Tip: Start small: gratitude journaling, prayer walks, or spiritual reading Get full access to It Girls Never Die at daniellecolada.substack.com/subscribe