After I Left: Stories of Migration: Ep 3: Max, mental health and immigration

In this episode of After I Left: Stories of Migration, we speak with Max, known online as @MaxNRelax, about his journey from Colorado to Spain as a white autistic trans man living with chronic illness seeking safety, stability, and a future where he will continue supporting his community.Max recently relocated to Spain through a government-sponsored English teaching assistant program, arriving with just two suitcases, his dog, and a deep sense of responsibility to those he left behind. As a licensed social worker, Max brings both professional insight and lived experience to the conversation, offering a grounded and compassionate look at what it means to migrate during a time of political uncertainty.We talk honestly about the emotional aftermath of leaving, the realities behind the “romanticized” version of moving abroad, and what it takes to stay regulated during one of the most intense transitions a person can experience. This episode centers mental health, disability access, and the complex mix of grief, relief, and resilience that follows choosing safety.In This EpisodeDeciding to Leave the United StatesWhy Max’s move to Spain was a long, painful decision rather than an impulsive one.The emotional cost of leaving community, support systems, and familiarity behind.What it means to take a leap of faith when the future feels uncertain.How physical and mental challenges shaped Max’s decision to leave.Fears around access to essential, gender-affirming healthcare in the U.S.The dangers of romanticizing migration without acknowledging privilege, loss, and barriers.Holding compassion for those who remain while building a life elsewhere.How Max qualified for Spain’s language assistant program.Using structured programs as accessible pathways for migration.The after-move crash: emotional and physical exhaustion that can hit weeks after transition.Feeling homesick while still recognizing increased safety.First impressions of daily life and community.How kindness from strangers can make a profound difference during resettlement.Practical grounding techniques for intense emotional periods.Rebuilding routine through simple acts: meeting neighbors, visiting libraries, attending local events.Living with self-doubt after leaving and learning to work through it.How safety and nervous system regulation expand a person’s ability to help others.Exploring weightlifting and physical training within the trans community.Building body confidence and strength.Looking ahead toward gender-affirming surgery and continued healing.TikTok: @MaxNRelaxDisability, Healthcare, and Safety ConcernsFinding a Path to SpainLife in SpainManaging Mental Health Through TransitionWhat’s Next for MaxResources MentionedNALCAP – North American Language and Culture Assistants ProgramA Spanish government program placing language assistants in schools across Spain. Provides part-time work and a monthly stipend. More information available through official Spanish education channels.Follow Max