Amy's Story

Send us Fan MailHello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.  Again before I introduce today’s episode I want to remind anyone who still wants to be part of an amazing project for NPEs there is a few more days until submissions close for this year’s collage.The project is The Faces of NPE Project, which includes faces of NPEs who submit their photo as a visual representation to help grow awareness and open thoughtful, respectful dialogue around our experiences.   If you choose to participate, you only need to submit once.  Your photo becomes part of an ongoing collage that continues to grow each year.  Submissions for this year’s project close May 13th, with the release happening in June for NPE awareness month.If you would like to be included, please email Carmen at [email protected] you!Now for today’s episode…..I am sharing Amy’s story for the first time!   False names, dead end searches…all before Google and at home DNA testing.  Amy had always been told the name of her “Father” was James McCarthy from PA. In Jr. High she became more curious and started asking her mom more questions about who her dad was, she told her she looked like him, artistic like him, driving more curiosity about her Father. This desire drove her to want to find him.  Fast forward to at home DNA testing, and having a husband who also didn’t know his father, she was determined to find him.  Amy will share the emotions that she’s had to process along the way, finding and then losing a half-sister and also her mother’s death.Here is a quote that Amy refers to in our conversation so I wanted to share it here also:  “Strange as it may seem, many people are still controlled by their parents after their deaths. The ghosts that haunt them may not be real in a supernatural sense, but they’re very real in a psychological one. A parent’s demands, expectations, and guilt trips can linger long after that parent has died.”Some great advice that Amy shares is to have realistic expectations versus reality, but be open and prepared.  No matter what happens she will be ok!Thank you Amy for sharing your story with all of us! And I cannot wait to hear how your CA visit goes! Here are the books Amy and I referenced:“Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life” by Susan Forward with Craig Buck “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyDHere is the link for the Hiraeth Hope And Healing search angels:https://www.hiraethhopeandhealing.com/search-angelsAmy’s contact:Substack or Threads – AmyJoNCMusic is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay