Appreciate & Request | Episode 239

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 239 is entitled “Appreciate and Request”. We all want better relationships. We introduced a level up challenge a few weeks ago. Maybe there’s a simpler way. That’s what we’re talking about tonight! Pull up a seat at the table and join us! Level Up Challenge…an alternative * Spending time appreciating * List 6 areas where you appreciate the other person * Be specific. looking particularly for things you may have come to take for granted * Examples * I’m grateful for your diligence as a provider for our family. * I’m thankful for your faithfulness and loyalty as a wife. * I’m thankful for the way you show you care with words and touch. * I appreciate your sensitivity to others feelings * Request your needs to be met * Things you might like to see concerning improvements and changes in this relationship * Be specific and positive as you look for major items of importance to you * Examples * I’m hoping you can become more comfortable initiating affection. * I’d like to see all cursing and abusive language stop. * I wish we would not criticize one another in front of others—particularly our children. * I’d hope that you might speak respectfully to those in authority. * Share your lists with one another * Be genuine, showing interest, emotion, and good eye contact, dedicated, private, and unrushed time alone * Be positive, encouraging, and looking to the future with hope. * Examples * It would be important to me if * It would mean a lot to me if. * I’m looking forward to the time when * Benefits * Sharing your requests helps avoid the destructive cycle of: * Having expectations and anticipations (i.e. requests) of another person. * Not communicating these requests. * But, becoming hurt or angry when these expectations aren’t met! This isn’t fair to either of the parties. * Exchange lists if it will help you remember some of your partner’s “Requests” * Practice Appreciation * Make no further mention of the “Requests” during the next month. (To do so would be to approach “nagging” and actually hinder progress.) * Make consistent effort to share praise for your “Appreciation” List plus other appreciation that come to mind. * Look for opportunities to share praise and appreciation * Privately with one another during daily conversations and private times * Publicly when in the company of others. like family members, children, or friends * In writing with special notes, cards, or gifts Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe