Bad Patterns in Relationships Part 1 | Episode 154

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight is episode 154 entitled “Bad Patterns in Relationships.” We all fall into bad patterns in our relationships. Why does that happen? What is really behind it all? How can we possibly break that destructive cycle? Is there hope? Pull up a chair at the table and join us! Bad PatternsWhat are they? Cyclical conflict in a relationshipHaving the same fight over different detailsWhat are their characteristics?Every decision/conflict is handled the same way and it is not productiveEvery major conflict is about the same “thing” with different causes for the incidentWhat causes it?General - conflict between where hurts goAnger/GuiltAnger/Self CondemnationFear/GuiltFear/Self CondemnationAnger & Fear look outward, Guilt & Self Condemnation inward’ProceduralConflict between emotional needsOpposite “need” of needs in generalRespect vs. SecurityAffection vs. Security/RespectEncouragement vs. SupportAttention vs. Acceptance Not being open, honest and vulnerableNot communicating the need - openStealing the need - honestBeing afraid (perhaps rightfully so) that the need won’t be met - vulnerableNot mutually giving - one or both of the people are not loving the other by meeting an OHV communicated need.Unresolved HurtsPast hurts outside of a relationship that have not been comfortedPast hurts within a relationship that have not been confessed, understood and forgivenInhibits intimacy which prohibits the meeting of other needsReduces the impact of other needs being metClouds or diminishes an altruistic attempt to meet a need Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe