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EPISODE · May 18, 2025 · 1H 24M

Breaking The Reflection: Separating Your Story From Your Child's

from Why Do People Do That? · host Stacy Pellettieri, LCSW and Heather Harten. LCSW

Do you sometimes feel your child's successes—or failures—reflect directly on you? You're not alone. In this episode, we explore the powerful, often unconscious ways parents project their unresolved issues onto their children. When we see our kids as extensions of ourselves, we may inadvertently make them responsible for our self-worth, tying their achievements to our value and fearing judgment through their choices. This dynamic can disrupt a child’s developing identity, strain the parent-child bond, and contribute to anxiety, confusion, and even depression—for both parent and child. Together, we'll unpack how these patterns form, how to recognize when you're slipping into them, and how to begin shifting toward a healthier, more supportive relationship with your child. You'll learn how to tell the difference between truly encouraging your child versus subtly projecting your unmet needs onto them. If you're ready to break the cycle and parent from a place of clarity and compassion, this episode is a powerful first step.   Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@WhyDoPeopleDoThat   Visit our website: https://whydopeopledothat.com/   If you'd like to contact Stacy and Heather or learn more about their practices, visit the following sites: Long Island Counseling Services - www.longislandcounselingservices.com District Support Services - www.districtsupportservices.com  ADHD Training Center - www.adhdtrainingcenter.com     Follow the "Why Do People Do That?" Podcast on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whydopeopledothatpodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61569908326130 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whydopeopledothatpodcast   This episode was produced at Press Record Studios in NYC:  www.pressrecordstudios.com

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