can "good feminists" get married?

This week, I dive into a thoughtful question posed on one of my TikToks: is it anti-feminist to get married? I shuffle through my Family Law notes to give an overview of the legal history of marriage, which is unsurprisingly pretty sexist. (Yes, the Supreme Court really did rule that women couldn't be practicing lawyers.) I unpack my complicated feelings about my pending nuptials in light of the patriarchal and sexist foundations of marriage before going on to question even further what "family" means in our society. Marx and Engels made early arguments for abolishing the family, and even David Brooks wrote an article in March 2020 suggesting the evolution of the nuclear family. "Family abolition" sounds terrible, but is it really as bad as it sounds?[timestamps]intro - 0:00legal history of marriage - 3:00is marriage anti-feminist? - 5:47should we abolish the family? - 11:17[references]https://supreme.justia.com/cases/federal/us/98/145/https://www.oyez.org/cases/1850-1900/83us130https://twitter.com/nonbinarybooty/status/1590825946181144577https://www.vice.com/en/article/qjdzwb/sophie-lewis-feminist-abolishing-the-family-full-surrogacy-nowhttps://www.currentaffairs.org/2022/09/why-we-should-abolish-the-familyhttps://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2020/03/the-nuclear-family-was-a-mistake/605536/--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/currently-workshopping/message This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cecexie.substack.com/subscribe