Codependency versus God Dependency

Lee talks about being dependent on the Lord, to set us free from codependency. Last week I discussed boundaries. Today we cover the codependency the church has. We need people to be dependent on God, not the church. Our corelationship with others is to be intradependent. I was questioned about codependency. MY STATEMENTS ARE IN BOLD a deep-seated need for approval from others GOD LOVES YOU self-worth that depends on what others think about you GOD MADE YOU IN HIS IMAGE a habit of taking on more work than you can realistically handle, both to earn praise or lighten a loved one’s burden THEY COULD NOT ENTER HIS REST BECAUSE THEY DID NOT MIX THE FAITH WITH THE PROMISE a tendency to apologize or take on blame in order to keep the peace GOD LOOKS FOR PEACEMAKERS NOT PEACEKEEPERS a pattern of avoiding conflict GRACE IS THE POWER TO ENGAGE IN LOVE a tendency to minimize or ignore your own desires YOU ARE THE APPLE OF HIS EYE excessive concern about a loved one’s habits or behaviors GOD CARES ABOUT THEM MORE THAN YOU. BE ANXIOUS FOR NOTHING a habit of making decisions for others or trying to “manage” loved ones YOU ARE NOT THE HOLY SPIRIT a mood that reflects how others feel, rather than your own emotions PEACE IS OUR REFEREE guilt or anxiety when doing something for yourself LOVE OTHERS AS YOU LOVE YOU! doing things you don’t really want to do, simply to make others happy DISCERNMENT IS YOUR GUIDE. idealizing partners or other loved ones, often to the point of maintaining relationships that leave you unfulfilled LOVE HAS NO CONDITIONS overwhelming fears of rejection or abandonment GOD MADE ROOM FOR YOU AT THE CROSS With codependency, the need to support others goes beyond what’s generally considered healthy. OPERATING IN URGENCY WITHOUT HOLY SPIRIT GUIDANCE BANKRUPTS US