Conflict

In this episode of 2 LADS, Daniel and Leggy walk us through a recent conflict they had while on holiday—not in Wales—in an effort to break down how tricky conflict can be and how important it is to set our weapons down and get back to loving each other. Daniel also discusses the dilemma he sees between being agreeable and being untrustworthy. Leggy talks about what’s usually going on on the surface versus the feelings you don’t even realize you’re experiencing in real time. And they both agree that we often build up stories about others in order to justify our negative feelings. The 2 LADS eventually conclude that you can get past conflict and even grow from it, tyrants and lads on tour included. Their final take-away being to always bring a life coach on holiday.The 2 LADS podcast tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing. JUMP STRAIGHT INTO:(02:51) - The Check In - “Part of why I didn't want to reveal stuff is that I'm actually pretty fucking boring. Mystery is more interesting than the facts.” (14:01) - Conflict can strengthen a relationship - “With us, the more conflict we have, the more I trust you. The more I trust our friendship.”(16:11) - Conflict to get your way in the world - “Is being aggressive wrong all the time? Is conflict wrong? No, it's not. It's just when to use it, and is it serving you?”(19:02) - Deescalating conflict - “The idea of expressing any vulnerability is really scary and very difficult, and yet it's the only thing that will deescalate the problem.”(20:34) - Daniel and Leggy’s holiday conflict, an example of conflict - “You were looking at a tyrant and it was your job to fight him?”(25:23) - The conscious vs. the unconscious - “That's another fucking minefield that you're dealing with where you might be pissed off at me for something that you don't even know that you're pissed off about.”(27:19) - The stories we tell ourselves - “If you see someone day to day and you're in a relationship with them, you start to see their humanity. Their good parts. Their bad parts. But you have a relationship with them that means that the stories don't build up.”(31:51) - Getting on the same page - “This is where it's hard because you want it to be dialed. You want everyone to be in the same place so that we can just get to where we need to get to to resolve.”(39:40) - Coming to a resolution - “I think it was the first big blowup that we’ve had. And that happens in relationships all the time, but it's also knowing, ‘Hey, like there are going to be things that come up that aren't going to be resolved, but we will eventually resolve them.’”RESOURCES:Connect w/ Daniel on Instagram, Twitter and IMDBConnect w/ Leggy on Instagram and SpotifyThank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on Instagram, and don’t forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADSThe 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer...