EPISODE · Feb 13, 2026 · 29 MIN
Control vs. Influence: How to Stop Adding to the Chaos and Return to Inner Wisdom
from Guided: by Third Wheel · host Third Wheel
In a world that feels like it’s moving faster than our nervous systems can process, it’s easy to get pulled into the chaos. This episode is a pause. A reset. A call to return to inner wisdom.In this week’s Guided by Third Wheel, Amber and Jill talk candidly about what’s happening in the world right now and how quickly fear, reactivity, and polarization can take over our relationships, our communities, and even our activism.They explore the difference between influence and control, how “virtuous” behavior can still be a form of manipulation, and why trying to force outcomes often creates more division instead of healing. Jill shares a powerful passage from the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (Step 3) that reframes the urge to manage the “whole show,” and connects it back to social work concepts like natural consequences and avoiding power struggles.This episode is for anyone who feels flooded by the news, overwhelmed by conflict, or caught in cycles of arguing, fixing, or performing “right action.”✨ In this episode, we explore:Control vs. influence and how intentions can get distortedWhy “being right” can still create harm and divisionThe temptation to manage outcomes instead of focusing on the inputNatural consequences and the social work reminder: don’t engage in power strugglesHow to step away with compassion (not superiority)Choosing inner wisdom over external noiseReducing chaos instead of adding to itWe close with an oracle pull: a reminder that the sacred is not outside of you. It’s within you, always available, even in uncertain times.💻 Want to work with us? Visit https://thirdwheelllc.com to learn more about Third Wheel’s services, offerings, and community.📱 Follow us for more insight, humor, and heart: @ThirdWheelConsultingLLC
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In a world that feels like it’s moving faster than our nervous systems can process, it’s easy to get pulled into the chaos. This episode is a pause. A reset. A call to return to inner wisdom.In this week’s Guided by Third Wheel, Amber and Jill talk candidly about what’s happening in the world right now and how quickly fear, reactivity, and polarization can take over our relationships, our communities, and even our activism.They explore the difference between influence and control, how “virtuous” behavior can still be a form of manipulation, and why trying to force outcomes often creates more division instead of healing. Jill shares a powerful passage from the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (Step 3) that reframes the urge to manage the “whole show,” and connects it back to social work concepts like natural consequences and avoiding power struggles.This episode is for anyone who feels flooded by the news, overwhelmed by conflict, or caught in cycles of arguing, fixing, or performing “right action.”✨ In this episode, we explore:Control vs. influence and how intentions can get distortedWhy “being right” can still create harm and divisionThe temptation to manage outcomes instead of focusing on the inputNatural consequences and the social work reminder: don’t engage in power strugglesHow to step away with compassion (not superiority)Choosing inner wisdom over external noiseReducing chaos instead of adding to itWe close with an oracle pull: a reminder that the sacred is not outside of you. It’s within you, always available, even in uncertain times.💻 Want to work with us? Visit https://thirdwheelllc.com to learn more about Third Wheel’s services, offerings, and community.📱 Follow us for more insight, humor, and heart: @ThirdWheelConsultingLLC
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