EPISODE · Sep 29, 2025 · 27 MIN

Deepa Paul on opening her marriage

from Ladies, We Need To Talk · host Australian Broadcasting Corporation

Married mum Deepa Paul didn’t have ‘sleeping with strangers’ on her bingo card. She grew up in the Catholic and conservative Philippines and married her college sweetheart. But underneath, Deepa yearned for more.   Deepa wanted to open up her marriage, but convincing her husband took time and tears. Eventually, they settled on boundaries and set up their dating profiles. Having sex with new people meant that Deepa could explore her desires without shame. It also sparked a renewal in her marriage.  In her book Ask me how it works: love in an open marriage Deepa answers the questions we all want to know about polyamory.  What to listen to next:The new way to dateHow to have better sex, with Emily NagoskiEsther Perel will change how you think about intimacyOh my kink! Pulling back the covers on BDSMYou can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts. What to read next: How Turia Pitt's body image changed in motherhoodThe dark side of being a perfectionistShame and disgust: Why we find this STI so hard to talk aboutWhat happens to your sex life during perimenopause?This episode will answer questions like: How does polyamory work? Do people get jealous in open relationships? What is couples therapy like? How do you navigate the stigma of an open relationship? How do you talk to your partner about sex? How do you talk to your kids about your sex life? This episode contains references to polyamory, open marriage, wedding, sex, sexuality, marriage, parenting, children, kids, communication, couples therapy, couples counselling, infidelity, cheating, online dating.