E.117 - Privileges As a Man in Polyamory with Albert Thoj

Albert has been creating awesome content on Instagram @polymananswers, and you should definitely go check him out! In this episode, he talks about how he grew up in a polygenist household, so non-monogamy was always part of his history. Patriarchal culture being what it is, however, it came as a shock to even his non-monogamous family when Alberts femme partners were given the same freedom to have other partners as he did. The blowback Albert experienced was enough for him to learn quickly to have boundaries. He decided that he did not want to interact with anyone who is trying to invalidate how he wanted to live his life. He learned to reinforce his boundaries time and again, forcing his family to come to terms with not having access to him unless they were respectful of his choices. After talking a bit about the traffic on his channel, we start to talk about the privileges we have as men in polyamory. Being praised for having multiple partners, for example, as opposed to women who are more likely to be slut-shamed, is a privilege that we as men have. We talk about how living in a religious, patriarchal society sets expectations for men to have sexual conquests, whereas women are expected to remain pure, innocent virgins until marriage. We chat about what we can do to be allies, in addition to talking about hoe Albert wants to have a positive influence as a content creator of polyamorous content. This was absolutely an awesome conversation with a truly remarkable dude, and you should absolutely check out his stuff!! Learn more at albahlove.mypixieset.com and follow him on IG: @polymananswers!