Ep 19. The Real Problem Isn’t ADHD. It’s Self-Abandonment

What if everything you’ve been told about ADHD is wrong?What if your brain isn’t broken—but simply wired for a different kind of brilliance?In this episode, we’re throwing out the outdated, shame-filled narratives around ADHD and replacing them with something revolutionary: wholeness.In this episode, I’m walking you through the Untamed Freedom Formula, a four-phase process designed to help you stop fighting yourself and start embracing how your mind actually works. We’ll talk about curiosity, acceptance, self-compassion, and willingness—and how these four simple shifts can change everything, from your productivity to your relationships to your self-worth.If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much” or “not enough” at the same time, this episode is for you.In this episode, you’ll learn about:Shame spiral, system hopping, and self-abandonment are the bigger issues. (1:00)Analogy: Painting over a water stain instead of fixing the leak → Treating symptoms instead of root causes. (2:30)Many are working hard yet feel like they’re failing. (4:00)The real issue: Fighting "invisible math" with shame as a compass. (5:45)Developed after being diagnosed with ADHD at 19. (7:00)Phase 1: Relearn (10:00)Phase 2: Reflect (12:30)Phase 3: Release (15:30)Phase 4: Respond (17:30)ADHD isn’t a secret but a part of a person’s system. You don't need to tell others about ADHD for them to understand or tiptoe around you. (19:00)Ontology refers to understanding the true nature of something. In this case, it’s about exploring ADHD's real nature instead of trying to "fix" it. (20:00)The traditional view of ADHD as a disorder of executive function is flawed. (22:00)ADHD is a form of neurodivergence, not a failure to fit into societal expectations. (24:00)The “theology” of executive function promotes obedience and productivity, which might not work for ADHD brains. (25:15)The internalized belief that ADHD individuals are lazy or undisciplined stems from societal pressure to conform to a rigid, linear, and productive mold. (26:00)Enrollment for ADHD Untamed is now open! This transformative program is designed to help you embrace your ADHD with confidence, harness your strengths, and create a life that works for you. I’m offering expert guidance, practical tools, and a supportive community to help you gain clarity, self-acceptance, and strategies to thrive. Don’t miss this opportunity to break free from overwhelm and step into your full potential. Sign up now to start your journey! https://www.anaurban.com/adhd-untamed🌱 Ready to stop second-guessing and start trusting yourself—no matter what emotions arise?🎟️ Save your seat for the live 2-day workshop: Rewire Your Brain for Emotional Resilience in Just 5 Minutes a Day🗓️ May 20 & 22 | Included for Untamed members💻 Grab your ticket today!Want to go even deeper? Join the Untamed coaching experience and build the emotional resilience, clarity, and confidence to create a life that aligns with your values.✨ Weekly live coaching with Ana✨ Emotional regulation & mindset tools✨ The Untamed Freedom Formula course✨ Live masterclasses & workshops every month plus our entire library of past classes on everything from decluttering to perfectionism✨ A wildly relatable, supportive community👉🏽 Join now at anaurban.com/adhd-untamed