Ep 26: Why Therapy Alone Won't Fix Your Dating Patterns

What does it actually take to stop repeating the same toxic dating cycles, even after years of therapy, journaling, and doing "all the work"? In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber sits down with licensed therapist, homeopath, and integrative healer Dawn Wiggins to go deep on the real reason so many women find themselves choosing the wrong partner again and again after divorce. The answer lives below conscious awareness: a buried belief that it isn't safe, or simply not deserved, to have healthy lasting love. Self-sabotage in dating rarely looks like sabotage from the inside. This conversation is essential dating after divorce advice for anyone who has felt genuinely stuck in a cycle they can't seem to think their way out of. Laurie helps women through this exact gap, the distance between knowing your pattern and actually breaking it. As a dating coach for women over 50 with more than 20 years of experience, she brings in Dawn to address what emotional healing after divorce really requires: somatic work, lineage-level clearing, and tools that reach what talk therapy alone can't access. Together, they tackle the loneliness vs. compatibility question that shapes almost every dating mistake after divorce, and they name the signs that a woman is ready to date but not yet ready to choose well. Dawn also breaks down what homeopathy has to do with dating patterns, how generational trauma compounds a woman's belief system without her knowing it, and why the "bad boy" pull isn't simply a bad habit. It runs deeper than that. And at the end, there is a concrete homework assignment you can use in the exact moment you feel yourself sliding back into an old pattern. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00–01:44 — Why therapy alone won't stop you from repeating patterns 01:44–04:15 — Meet licensed therapist and integrative healer Don Wiggins 04:15–08:55 — The unconscious belief beneath the surface blocking love 08:55–13:25 — How dissociation keeps old wounds hidden and unresolved 13:25–23:06 — Generational trauma, the ACEs scale, and how homeopathy helps 23:06–30:09 — Loneliness as a warning sign you're not ready to choose well 30:09–43:59 — Bad boys, attachment styles, and Don's personal love story 43:59–50:45 — A 3-part journaling exercise to stop self-sabotage in dating 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES 🎙 Guest: Dawn Wiggins  🌟 Join Dawn’s free online community and download the freebie: EMDR immersive journaling program for loneliness: https://community.mycoachdawn.com/invitation?code=CEB64G 🎧 Dear Divorce Diary Podcast (Apple Podcasts): https://cc54422c.streak-link.com/C3MNOgw7-3-QlXnUrw23kW4A/https%3A%2F%2Fpodcasts.apple.com%2Fus%2Fpodcast%2Fdear-divorce-diary-a-fresh-approach-to-healing%2Fid1629538946 🌿 Book a homeopathy consult: https://cc54422c.streak-link.com/C3MNOg0q6sug5jPDZArNDOLO/https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dawnwigginstherapy.com%2Fcontact-us%2F 🧠 Your Post-Divorce Nervous System Tells the Truth Your Hormones Can’t Hide (quiz): https://scoreapp.mycoachdawn.com/p/4-patterns-of-hormone-grief-disconnection?_gl=1*akwzo2*_ga*Mjg0Mzg2MjkwLjE2NDcyNjc5Mjg.*_ga_EWZ29X6VS7*czE3NzQzNjU3MTUkbzgxJGcwJHQxNzc0MzY1NzE1JGo2MCRsMCRoMA..*_ga_353096873*czE3NzQzNjU3MTUkbzkzJGcwJHQxNzc0MzY1NzE1JGo2MCRsMCRoMA..  More from Laurie: If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training:  👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar 🌐 https://www.lauriegerber.com Stay connected with Laurie: ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach  📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/  👍 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach  💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber  🎙 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/