Ep 30: When Is It Actually Time to Have Sex?

from Love At Any Age with Laurie Gerber · host Laurie Gerber

Are you still following the third date rule when it comes to sex, and wondering why it keeps backfiring? Most dating advice about when to have sex is either vague, outdated, or designed with someone else's agenda in mind. For women over 50, the stakes are higher. You know what heartbreak costs. You know what it feels like to override your own gut and regret it. And you deserve a clear, practical roadmap instead of a guessing game. In this episode, dating coach Laurie Gerber sits down with relationship expert and podcast host Donna Barnes to walk through the 6 questions every woman over 50 must be able to answer before sex belongs in a new relationship. From "do I know him well enough?" to the monogamy conversation most couples skip entirely, this episode covers the real meaning of readiness and gives you a checklist you can actually use. If you've ever wondered how long to wait before sex, what healthy relationship sex actually looks like, or how to have the STI conversation without dying of awkwardness, this one is for you. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00–02:05 — The Third Date Rule: Myth vs. Reality 02:06–07:28 — Donna's 10-Date Rule and Why It Works 07:29–09:47 — Introducing Donna Barnes 09:48–18:42 — Question 1: Do I Know Him Well Enough? 18:43–20:53 — Question 2: Are We a Real Match? 20:54–26:48 — Question 3: Are My Eyes Wide Open? 26:49–31:15 — Question 4: Has Monogamy Been Defined? 31:16–35:37 — Question 5: Are We Responsible About STIs? 35:38–43:18 — Question 6: Are We Prepared for It to Go Well? 43:19–45:30 — Homework + Where to Find Donna 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES 📖 Previously mentioned episode: Episode 6: Questions to Ask on the First Few Dates: https://youtu.be/rNcaQKJxBqA 📚 Guest Resources: 🎙 Broken to Brave Podcast (Donna Barnes) https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOy5sro7RED31krPpnsgsUx-KjcTbTHkd 🌐 https://donnabarnes.com 📺 Donna Barnes on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@DonnaBarnes/ More from Laurie: If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=guest_appearance&utm_content=donna_barnes&utm_term=ep30 🌐 https://lauriegerber.com https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=guest_appearance&utm_content=donna_barnes&utm_term=ep30 Stay connected with Laurie: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/

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Are you still following the third date rule when it comes to sex, and wondering why it keeps backfiring? Most dating advice about when to have sex is either vague, outdated, or designed with someone else's agenda in mind. For women over 50, the stakes are higher. You know what heartbreak costs. You know what it feels like to override your own gut and regret it. And you deserve a clear, practical roadmap instead of a guessing game. In this episode, dating coach Laurie Gerber sits down with relationship expert and podcast host Donna Barnes to walk through the 6 questions every woman over 50 must be able to answer before sex belongs in a new relationship. From "do I know him well enough?" to the monogamy conversation most couples skip entirely, this episode covers the real meaning of readiness and gives you a checklist you can actually use. If you've ever wondered how long to wait before sex, what healthy relationship sex actually looks like, or how to have the STI conversation without dying of awkwardness, this one is for you. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–02:05 — The Third Date Rule: Myth vs. Reality02:06–07:28 — Donna's 10-Date Rule and Why It Works07:29–09:47 — Introducing Donna Barnes09:48–18:42 — Question 1: Do I Know Him Well Enough?18:43–20:53 — Question 2: Are We a Real Match?20:54–26:48 — Question 3: Are My Eyes Wide Open?26:49–31:15 — Question 4: Has Monogamy Been Defined?31:16–35:37 — Question 5: Are We Responsible About STIs?35:38–43:18 — Question 6: Are We Prepared for It to Go Well?43:19–45:30 — Homework + Where to Find Donna 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES📖 Previously mentioned episode: Episode 6: Questions to Ask on the First Few Dates: https://youtu.be/rNcaQKJxBqA📚 Guest Resources: 🎙 Broken to Brave Podcast (Donna Barnes) https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOy5sro7RED31krPpnsgsUx-KjcTbTHkd🌐 https://donnabarnes.com 📺 Donna Barnes on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@DonnaBarnes/ More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=guest_appearance&utm_content=donna_barnes&utm_term=ep30 🌐 https://lauriegerber.com https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=guest_appearance&utm_content=donna_barnes&utm_term=ep30 Stay connected with Laurie:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/