Ep. 53 What to do when it doesn’t work out
An episode of the The Unlock Lab podcast, hosted by Tosca DiMatteo, titled "Ep. 53 What to do when it doesn’t work out" was published on March 25, 2025 and runs 30 minutes.
March 25, 2025 ·30m · The Unlock Lab
Summary
This episode is for anyone who’s ever gone after something big and didn’t get the outcome they wanted. I’m walking you through what happened when I didn’t move on in a storytelling competition, how I prepared for it, what I learned, and how I dealt with the disappointment. I talk about everything from hiring a keynote coach and getting my makeup done, to sitting with my feelings and honoring the effort I put in. I also share what I remind myself (and my clients) when things don’t go our way: there’s always something to take from the experience...and it might be better than what you thought you wanted.Episode Highlights:How I prepped for a high-stakes moment, mentally, emotionally, and logistically.I share what I did to stay grounded and present on stage, and how I handled feedback after.The small (and big) wins I clocked, even though I didn’t get the “prize.”Quotables:[00:09:18]"My intent was, you know what? I'm happy just to have made it this far. And so I just wanna have fun with the experience and have fun with the other contestants and the folks that were gonna be there to witness it."[00:17:11]"I didn't get to move on to the next round and so what I do in those situations and what I am kind of inviting you to do is to take those things that didn't work out and use it as an opportunity for deep reflection about what that experience offered you, what you learned, and how you grew."[00:25:00]"Sometimes we just jump right into the next thing because it gives us comfort, it gives us the sense of control of, well, fine, I'm gonna go make it happen, then I'm gonna try again. And that's great and I want you to do that but sometimes what your heart and soul needs is, give me a minute, give me a minute to reset."Tosca’s Links and Resources:Sign up for Tosca's Newsletter: https://toscadimatteo.com/optin/Tosca’s WebsiteGet in Touch with ToscaLinkedInInstagramEpisode Specific Links:Vital Voice TrainingAmber (my makeup Artist)Giving Flowers To:Theme music by: Adrian DiMatteoPodcast edited by: Landis Podcast Editing
Episode Description
This episode is for anyone who’s ever gone after something big and didn’t get the outcome they wanted. I’m walking you through what happened when I didn’t move on in a storytelling competition, how I prepared for it, what I learned, and how I dealt with the disappointment. I talk about everything from hiring a keynote coach and getting my makeup done, to sitting with my feelings and honoring the effort I put in. I also share what I remind myself (and my clients) when things don’t go our way: there’s always something to take from the experience...and it might be better than what you thought you wanted.
Episode Highlights:
How I prepped for a high-stakes moment, mentally, emotionally, and logistically.
I share what I did to stay grounded and present on stage, and how I handled feedback after.
The small (and big) wins I clocked, even though I didn’t get the “prize.”
Quotables:
[00:09:18]
"My intent was, you know what? I'm happy just to have made it this far. And so I just wanna have fun with the experience and have fun with the other contestants and the folks that were gonna be there to witness it."
[00:17:11]
"I didn't get to move on to the next round and so what I do in those situations and what I am kind of inviting you to do is to take those things that didn't work out and use it as an opportunity for deep reflection about what that experience offered you, what you learned, and how you grew."
[00:25:00]
"Sometimes we just jump right into the next thing because it gives us comfort, it gives us the sense of control of, well, fine, I'm gonna go make it happen, then I'm gonna try again. And that's great and I want you to do that but sometimes what your heart and soul needs is, give me a minute, give me a minute to reset."
Tosca’s Links and Resources:
Sign up for Tosca's Newsletter: https://toscadimatteo.com/optin/
Episode Specific Links:
Giving Flowers To:
Theme music by: Adrian DiMatteo
Podcast edited by: Landis Podcast Editing