Ep. 79 How to Take Your Power Back Through Discernment
An episode of the The Unlock Lab podcast, hosted by Tosca DiMatteo, titled "Ep. 79 How to Take Your Power Back Through Discernment" was published on December 9, 2025 and runs 23 minutes.
December 9, 2025 ·23m · The Unlock Lab
Summary
Discernment is the ability to make the best possible choice for yourself - which is the recognition that you have the sovereignty to choose what is truly for you. It took me years to learn how I was giving away my time, energy and resources without being discerning enough. Being selective about which relationships and places you invest in will change the trajectory of your life, because you’ll be in more alignment with what you are worthy of. Tune in to learn where you might be self abandoning or accepting less than you’re deserving, so that you can honor yourself, your desires and your standards at a new level. And why not start now when we are in the hustle and bustle of holiday time!? Episode Highlights:•Untangling yourself from the belief that your connections automatically get unlimited access•Noticing when you’re saying yes from scarcity (fear of missing out, fear of being lonely, fear of closing a door)•Learning to trust that when you say no to what’s not aligned so you create space for what will serve you in the long termQuotables:[00:04:57] “Discernment has been a big word for me for several years because I had this big realization several years ago about who I was allowing in my life and who had the opportunity to have access to me and where I was giving my resources to. And I realized that there was a lot of folks that were getting my time and energy that really hadn't earned a spot there.”[00:09:29]“ I would stay on calls well past the point of value. I would stay on to be that support person and to give and to hold space. It was my way of giving and over time I realized I'm just giving away too damn much. It's not about not being generous and it's not about not giving, it's about being discerning about what level of that works for you.”[00:20:17]“ As you are moving through this season, as you are recognizing, oh my gosh, we're already several days into December, remember that you get to take your power back. You get to take your time and your energy back through discernment and it's not a selfish act because what is in your best interest is in the best interest of others as well."Tosca’s Links and Resources:Sign up for Tosca's Newsletter: http://toscadimatteo.com/newsletterTosca’s Website: https://www.toscadimatteo.comGet in Touch with Tosca: https://www.toscadimatteo.com/contactLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toscadimatteo/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toscadimatteo/Props for:Theme music by Adrian DiMatteo https://adriandimatteo.comPodcast editing by: Landis Podcast Editing https://www.landispodcastediting.com
Episode Description
Discernment is the ability to make the best possible choice for yourself - which is the recognition that you have the sovereignty to choose what is truly for you. It took me years to learn how I was giving away my time, energy and resources without being discerning enough. Being selective about which relationships and places you invest in will change the trajectory of your life, because you’ll be in more alignment with what you are worthy of.
Tune in to learn where you might be self abandoning or accepting less than you’re deserving, so that you can honor yourself, your desires and your standards at a new level. And why not start now when we are in the hustle and bustle of holiday time!?
Episode Highlights:
•Untangling yourself from the belief that your connections automatically get unlimited access
•Noticing when you’re saying yes from scarcity (fear of missing out, fear of being lonely, fear of closing a door)
•Learning to trust that when you say no to what’s not aligned so you create space for what will serve you in the long term
Quotables:
[00:04:57]
“Discernment has been a big word for me for several years because I had this big realization several years ago about who I was allowing in my life and who had the opportunity to have access to me and where I was giving my resources to. And I realized that there was a lot of folks that were getting my time and energy that really hadn't earned a spot there.”
[00:09:29]
“ I would stay on calls well past the point of value. I would stay on to be that support person and to give and to hold space. It was my way of giving and over time I realized I'm just giving away too damn much. It's not about not being generous and it's not about not giving, it's about being discerning about what level of that works for you.”
[00:20:17]
“ As you are moving through this season, as you are recognizing, oh my gosh, we're already several days into December, remember that you get to take your power back. You get to take your time and your energy back through discernment and it's not a selfish act because what is in your best interest is in the best interest of others as well."
Tosca’s Links and Resources:
Sign up for Tosca's Newsletter: http://toscadimatteo.com/newsletter
Tosca’s Website: https://www.toscadimatteo.com
Get in Touch with Tosca: https://www.toscadimatteo.com/contact
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toscadimatteo/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toscadimatteo/
Props for:
Theme music by Adrian DiMatteo https://adriandimatteo.com
Podcast editing by: Landis Podcast Editing https://www.landispodcastediting.com