Ep. 82: You Aren't Broken: Healing "Paper Cut" Trauma and the Nervous System with Stacey Uhrig

"I don’t believe we can heal things we don’t understand"-Stacey UhrigWe often think of trauma as the big, explosive events: war, violence, or catastrophe. But what about the paper cuts?.What about the relentless pressure of "not enoughness" that accumulates over decades?.In this episode, I sit down with Stacey Uhrig, a Trauma Recovery Coach who helps people flip their mindset. We aren't just talking about "soft skills" here; we are talking about the essential Human Skills required to lead yourself and others when the ground falls out from under you. Stacey shares her deeply personal story of the 2012 financial collapse that decimated her family business and left her facing a "Defcon 10" level of stress. She lost her savings, her security, and her peace of mind. But in that darkness, she found a whisper. She found a micro-practice of gratitude that pulled her back from the edge, one hour at a time.Tune in to learn how you might be bypassing your own needs and operating from a dysregulated nervous system , so that you can finally release the invisible brakes holding you back and lead with genuine clarity and peace.This conversation is for the high-achiever who feels like they are pushing a boulder up a hill every single day. If you are successful on paper but exhausted in spirit, this is your permission slip to stop, get curious, and listen to what your body has been screaming at you. 🦉Episode Highlights:Defining the Wound: Why trauma isn't just what happened to you; it’s also what didn't happen (like emotional neglect) and how you adapted to survive it.The "Hurt" Assessment: Stacey explains her tool for identifying the healing unresolved roots of trauma (HURRT) and why standard ACE scores miss the mark for many high-performers.Generational Baggage: A fascinating look at epigenetics and how the stress your grandmother felt could be living in your nervous system today.The Body Keeps the Score: Stacey opens up about her autoimmune diagnoses (Endometriosis, Raynaud’s, RA) and how she put her RA into remission by combining medical treatment with deep somatic release.Micro-Gratitude: The specific, no-cost strategy Stacey used to rebuild her safety when she had $500 to her name and a family to feed.Human Skills > Soft Skills: Why you cannot effectively lead a team or a business until you understand the "parts" of you that are driving the bus.Quotables:[02:07:50] "Trauma is the way that you are living to protect yourself from touching that wound."[03:03:00] "I didn't know that I took for granted that I can pay my bills... I wanted to be grateful for all of it while I had it because I never knew when I would not have it."[03:23:01] "No one's broken. You just adapted to life in a way that's no longer working for you."Links and Resources:Connect with Stacey Uhrig:Instagram: www.instagram.com/staceyuhrigWebsite: www.flipyourmindset.comHURRT Assessment: www.flipyourmindset.com/hurrt8-week course on healing anxiety: www.flipyourmindset.com/thecalmcodeBook Recommendations from this Episode:Break The Cycle by Dr. Mariel BuquéIt Didn't Start With You by Mark WolynnBully Market by Jamie Fiore HigginsThe Myth of Normal by Dr. Gabor MatéThe Biology of Trauma by Dr. Aimie ApigianFind them all here: https://www.flipyourmindset.com/book-recommendationTosca's Links and Resources:Sign up for Tosca's Newsletter: http://toscadimatteo.com/newsletterTosca's Website: https://www.toscadimatteo.comGet in Touch with Tosca: https://www.toscadimatteo.com/contactLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toscadimatteo/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toscadimatteo/Props for: Theme music by Adrian DiMatteo https://adriandimatteo.com