ep4 stress - what the *&$# is it?

You know that moment when the room’s too bright, your shirt feels wrong, and someone dares to talk to you before caffeine? Yeah, that’s not a personality flaw—that’s stress. This week, we’re diving into what’s really draining us (spoiler: it’s not always what you think) with help from the Self-Reg framework by Dr. Stuart Shanker.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro silliness and fake-out ending00:34 – Real intro: Welcome back to Safely Divergent!01:12 – Who is Dr. Stuart Shanker and what is Self-Reg?02:40 – What is stress actually? It’s not just “feeling overwhelmed.”05:00 – Explaining the 5 domains of stress06:55 – Biological domain: sensory, nutrition, sleep, and movement09:45 – Emotional domain: recognizing and recovering from emotions12:20 – Cognitive domain: mental load, executive functioning15:05 – Social domain: the pressure of people-ing18:10 – Prosocial domain: empathy fatigue and “being the helper” stress20:35 – Real-life examples of subtle stress24:50 – Why naming stressors changes everything27:00 – How Self-Reg helps us pause judgment and get curious30:15 – Wrap-up, quotes, and one last shoutout to Dr. ShankerResources & Mentions:Stuart Shanker’s Self-Reg websiteDr. Shanker’s book: Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with LifeFollow us on Instagram @safelydivergent