Episode 152: How to Become the Man You Want to Be in 5 Years with Integrated Masculinity.

Crushing it at work and in the gym while quietly falling apart at home is not strength; it’s disintegration. Real masculinity means integrating faith, family, fitness, and finances so that you don’t excel in one area while neglecting everything that matters most.Welcome to the Happy, Healthy, Strong Podcast, hosted by Adam Lane. This show explores what sustainable health truly means through supportive nutrition, intentional movement, and habits that foster strength without extremes.Episode HighlightsIn today’s episode, Adam Lane sits down with Cory Bolduc to talk about what it actually looks like for men to live integrated lives, where faith, family, fitness, and work line up instead of pulling against each other. With years of experience as a pastor, men’s coach, and nonprofit leader, Cory gets into real stories and straight talk about getting out of compartmentalized living, finding honest accountability, and cutting some of the digital noise so you can actually pay attention to what’s going on inside.Episode OutlineMeet Cory Bolduc & Integrated MasculinityDisintegrated vs. Integrated MenThe 4F Framework and Life BucketsMen’s Emotional Health & the SACHET ToolAccountability That Actually HelpsSocial Media, Comparison, and False StandardsAgreements That Quietly Run Your LifeThe Power of Men in Real CommunityDisconnection, Retreats & Boundary Waters TripsBecoming the Man You Want to Be in 5 YearsEpisode Chapters00:00 Welcome to Happy, Healthy, Strong00:27 Meet Cory Bolduc & his family03:30 What is Integrated Masculinity05:01 Balancing faith, family, fitness, finances11:39 Men’s emotions & the SACHET tool13:25 The power of men’s accountability groups29:02 Social media, comparison & “highlight reels”33:31 Phone boundaries, family, and parenting41:23 Men’s fires, retreats & Boundary Waters trips48:29 Asking “What do I want?” and slowing down51:20 5‑year exercise & practical next steps53:51 Where to find Cory & closing thoughtsAction TakenCory shares a 5‑year self‑audit exerciseDefine the kind of man you want to be in five yearsList how you currently spend your timeIdentify what moves you toward that man and what pulls you away  Listeners are invited to seek real accountability, whether in:   A local men’s group or faith communityOne‑on‑one counseling/coaching Cory points men to:   IntegratedMasculinity.life for men’s work, groups, retreats, and tripsIntegrated Ministries for crisis couples work and pastoral counselingPractical step: set stronger boundaries with social media, aiming to use it as a tool rather than a distraction (e.g., “post and ghost”). ConclusionA lot of guys look like they’re winning on the outside but feel scattered on the inside. Cory puts language to that and shows why it matters to pull faith, family, fitness, and work into the same lane instead of treating them like separate lives. The big idea is simple: pay attention to what’s really going on, get around a few solid men who will shoot you straight, and start cutting the stuff that’s pulling you away from the man you actually want to be.CTASubscribe to Happy, Healthy, Strong and share this episode with a man who’s crushing it on the outside but might be carrying more than he lets on. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/oakstrengthInstagram: @oakstrengthFollow Cory Bolduc@integrated_masulinityThank you for listening and giving space to think about the kind of man you’re becoming. Every step you take toward integration, showing up, being honest, and staying connected, builds a stronger life for you and the people who depend on you.