Episode #21 feat. Matt Domyancic

What happens when an ex-SWAT officer and first-responder chaplain arrives at the rites, only to find that the hardest part is holding space for other men trying to "fix" him?In this twenty-first episode of Follow Me to the M-R-O-P!, host Brian Mueller sits down with Matt Domyancic for an incredibly raw and unique conversation about his initiation in Big Bear, California. Matt shares his perspective as a high-alpha, former football player and cop who had already spent decades diving into psychoanalysis, silent retreats, and spiritual direction before arriving at the rites.Episode HighlightsThe Helper's High: Why men need to trade their desire to "fix" others for an experience of mystery and awe.The Myth of the Father Wound: Matt's experience of being pushed to manufacture trauma, and the beauty of honoring a good father.True Inner Work: Why shooting guns, crawling in the mud, and doing cold plunges isn't the deeper spiritual work men actually need.Butterflies in Formation: A powerful sports psychology lesson on jumping off the platform and embracing communal vulnerability.Episode Specific LinksMatt Domyancic:https://www.tacticalchaplain.comhttps://www.instagram.com/thinbluelinespiritualityhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-domyancic-b7203b6"Helping, Fixing or Serving?" by Rachel Naomi Remen, MD:https://www.dailygood.org/story/218/helping-fixing-or-serving-rachel-naomi-remen-mdLinks & ResourcesChoosing Presence (Sponsor): https://choosingpresence.orgPracticing Presence App: https://choosingpresence.org/appIlluman MROP page: https://illuman.org/mropAdam's Return by Richard Rohr: https://amzn.to/3PzVESHBrian Mueller (Host): https://brianmueller.comCreditsFirst and foremost, thank you to Matt Domyancic for sharing his journey and his heart with us today.Thank you to Fr. Richard Rohr and the men of Illuman who have stewarded the Men’s Rites of Passage since 1996.Thank you to Jim Heaney and Jim Taylor for their dedication to Choosing Presence.Music Credits:Slow Mo Dreams by SoundrollBecoming a Legend by Vens Adams