Episode 296: 'A Stubborn of Queers' (Kelli Dunham)

When you're incapable of an emotional connection, can hookups fill the gap? When Nonbinary Polyamorous Storyteller Nurse Comedian Ex-Nun Kelli Dunham loses multiple partners to cancer, she looks for community in a Brooklyn LGBT Grief Support Group, and ends up loafer-deep in anonymous sex among the scrubby pines of Fire Island. Plus, Dixie talks Sex Geek Summer Camp, Bawdy in Portland and her new How to Be Bawdy virtual workshop. #GriefSex   "We must make love in between the bombs" - Paul Monette   Song: 'F*ck the Pain Away' (Peaches)   About the Storyteller:   Kelli Dunham is the nonbinary ex-nun polyamorous storytelling nurse comedian that's so common in modern Brooklyn. Kelli has appeared on Showtime and the Discovery Channel, PBS Stories From the Stage, the Moth Mainstage, the Cinderblock Comedy Festival, the Women in Comedy Festival, and nationwide at colleges, Prides festivals, fundraisers, at oh so many nursing conferences and even the occasional livestock auction. Kelli's latest show, Second Helping, is coming to Ithaca, NY this week (July 12th) to Ann Arbor Michigan on August 2nd and OshKosh, Wisconsin on August 16th.   Hate live shows? Second Helping with Kelli Dunham, Kelli's hilarious and earnest new podcast–inspired by all the questions she gets about asking for, receiving and learning how to accept help– is produced by Kinehora Production and debuting early this fall.  Sign up to be the very first to know when it premiers!   You can also find Kelli on substack, youtube, instagram, tiktok and facebook.   Grief l Gay l Nature l Queer l Anonymous Sex l Hookup l Cruising l LGBT l Twink l Death l Raw l Play Party l Dungeon l Loss l Public Sex l Emotionally Devastated l Fire Island l Lookout l Bottoms Up l Condom l Lube l Buttplug l Dildo l Penis l Anal Hook l Human l Scholarship l Mental Health l Budget Cuts l Meat Rack l Subway l Appetizer l Wilderness l Lesbian l CisGender l Healing l Beach l Star Trek l   Episode links:   'How to Be Bawdy' Storytelling Workshop - learn Dixie's complete 5-Step System & Learn the Craft of Sexy Stories from Award-winning Story Coach and Professional Storyteller Dixie De La Tour.   Have you ever listened to a story at a live performance or on a podcast, and wished that you could share your own personal stories in such a well-crafted, relatable way? It's easy, if you have a System...and Dixie De La Tour has one. She's taught thousands of new and experienced storytellers to tell their story at Bawdy Storytelling. And now YOU can learn her simple system, too. Join Dixie for her all new workshop: 'How to Be Bawdy: Dixie's Secret System for Uncensored Storytelling', a 6 week hands-on storytelling intensive. It starts next week! You'll engage in group & solo exercises in a sex-positive, community-based environment as you find & refine your own stories under Dixie's expert direction. Try our your own most intimate stories in a positive, supportive setting. 'How to Be Bawdy' includes special topics in sexuality, kink and gender-related storytelling, to help you articulate your stories clearly. With live sessions, weekly office hours, best practices for NSFW stories, performance tips, storytelling-related neuroscience, a custom workbook, coaching from Dixie - and a final storytelling performance for you and your friends.   WHEN: Mondays, July 22 - August 26th, 2024 Time: 5:30 - 7:30 PM PDT (8:30 - 10:30 PM EDT) PLUS Weekly Office Hours: Wednesdays, 5:30-7:30 PST (Optional weekly hours for custom coaching, Q&A, story advice & more) WHERE: Online, so that you can attend from anywhere in the world   And coming in August: How to Be Fascinating: Dixie's Secret System for Brilliant Storytelling (live and in-person!)   The Dixie Ramble: My Substack 'The Dixie Ramble' is starting next week. Substack is a great way to receive audio, video and written work from me. You can subscribe to The Dixie Ramble at https://substack.com/profile/22550258-dixie-de-la-tour   And Folks, I'm still considering ending the Bawdy podcast at 300 episodes. That means there's less than a month's worth of episodes to go. Podcasting is a lot of work, and I'm wondering if I should put my energy to better use. Should I write a book? Start creating online courses? Sell pics of my feet?   If you love Bawdy, I need to hear from you. This decision will affect both of us. And if you listen, please make a One-time or Ongoing Donation to keep the Podcast going!   One Time Donation links are at:   Venmo: @BawdyStorytelling or https://www.venmo.com/bawdystorytelling CashApp: https://cash.app/$DixieDeLaTour Paypal: paypal.me/bawdystorytelling Zelle: https://www.zellepay.com/  Email address is  [email protected] BuyMeACoffee: buymeacoff.ee/bawdy   Ko-fi : Ko-fi.com/thanksbawdy     Ongoing Support for the Podcast: Better yet, Join Bawdy's Patreon now to get exclusive Patreon-only rewards (and my eternal gratitude). Podcasting has been decimated by high profile celebrity podcasts, and Independent podcast like Bawdy are suffering…The Golden Age of Podcasting is over, so if you love the Bawdy podcast, remember: this thing is entirely Listener Supported, and we need your financial assistance to continue.   It's at https://www.patreon.com/Bawdy Sign up now and get the Replay of the Portland BawdySlam! (Plus the Portland curated show is up on Patreon, waiting for you)   Private Coaching:   Sexuality and Kink Coaching: I'm available for sexuality and kinky coaching, and story coaching. If you've always wished that you had someone to talk to openly, I'm here to support you (and give advice, if you want it - you decide what role I play. I'm a great listener, and a coach with many years of experience in this world.   Story Coaching: I'd love to work with you on your personal story, because Storytelling is essential to your work, dating and social life. Right now I'm offering private coaching on Zoom… Want to work on your personal branding? (your dating profile, website, storytelling for job interviews, etc). I can help you live the life that you've always dreamed about: communicating with clarity, feeling more confident when you speak socially and on stage, landing your dream job, and discovering what makes *you* tick - storytelling is so good for figuring out what drives you. Whether it's getting onstage for the first time, writing your memoir, creating a podcast, opening up your marriage, embracing a new identity or finding your way to a new, more authentic life, I can help. Email me at [email protected] and let's make it happen. Bawdy Got Me Laid perfume: Dixie has created her own fragrance and it's getting rave reviews!   Here's a review of #BawdyGotMeLaid : "Okay hear me out, THIS PERFUME IS ABSOLUTELY AMAZING. I will probably never buy perfume from another shop. That's how good these are. #bawdygotmelaid is so sexy, so sweet, so delicious. The Amber and ylang ylang is what sold me, and it did not disappoint!" - Carlie You'll love #BawdyGotMeLaid, scented with golden Honey, Amber, Ylang Ylang, and warm Vanilla. There's also our creamy Bawdy Butter, Hair & Bawdy Oil, & more. Bawdy Got Me Laid cologne - in a beautiful bottle, or a convenient roll-on applicator - means you can deliver your own great smelling Motorboats while supporting Bawdy. It's sexy yet innocent, and even moms and kids love it.   Get yours today at https://bawdystorytelling.com/merchandise Read more reviews here: https://sucreabeille.com/products/bawdygotmelaid   Subscribe to the Bawdy Storytelling email at https://bawdystorytelling.com/subscribe   Where should I bring Bawdy next? Do you want Bawdy Storytelling in *your* city? I'm ramping up for more cities and live shows. Maybe an evening of *my* personal stories, or a House Concert, a BawdySlam, or ? Send me a message, tell me what you're thinking, and let's work together. Message me at [email protected]   Check out our Bawdy Storytelling Fiends and Fans group on Facebook - it's a place to discuss the podcast's stories with the storytellers, share thoughts with your fellow listeners, & help Dixie make the podcast even better. Just answer 3 simple questions and you're IN! https://www.facebook.com/groups/360169851578316/ Thank you to the Team that makes this podcast possible! Team Bawdy is:   Podcast Producer: Roman Den Houdijker Sound Engineer: David Grosof Storytelling support by Mosa Maxwell-Smith Video & Livestream support from Donal Mooney Bawdy's Creator & Host is Dixie De La Tour & Thank you to Pleasure Podcasts. Bawdy Storytelling is proud to be part of your s*x-positive podcast collective!   Website: https://bawdystorytelling.com/ On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bawdystorytelling/ Like us at www.Facebook.com/BawdyStorytelling Join us on FetLife: https://fetlife.com/groups/46341 Support us on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/Bawdy Watch us on YouTube at http://bit.ly/BawdyTV Find out about upcoming Podcast episodes - & Livestreams - at www.BawdyStorytelling.com/subscribe