Exceeding Your Own Expectations With Steve Beckles-Ebusua

In this episode John talks to The Speaker with the Orange Tie himself, Steve Beckles-Ebusua.  Steve is a school motivational speaker of over 20 years experience, who has reached over one million people. He also had a career in secondary school education and was a coach before specialising in the educational environment. He has spoken in many countries, including Sweden, Germany, Holland, Belgium, Italy and the USA. His organisation also delivers soft skills training to organisations throughout the UK. As well as being an Amazon bestseller, Steve was recently on an expert panel assembled by the Enfield council to discuss exams and revision techniques to support and aid parents in the Enfield area. Steve has his own fortnightly Motivational radio show, which helps people to look beyond their beliefs and exceed their expectations in life. He has special guests who speak about personal development, mental health, physical health, and developing a growth mindset. John and Steve chat about how they met, how Steve’s job came about, learning habits, the story of the orange tie, communication, childhood experience informing beliefs and family.   KEY TAKEAWAYS Steve started in Mentoring, Support Work and Teaching before deciding he would like to have his own company as a vehicle to spread his positive mindset. Read more books if you want to learn. Even if you are not into reading, use audiobooks and turn your car into a university. Always learn something new everyday. Steve splits his tasks into 15 minute segments, giving himself a quarter of an hour to achieve each one. In this way momentum is kept up and interest is maintained. The title The Speaker with the Orange Tie came about through a mistaken purchase. Steve was actually hoping for a red tie! This has since expanded to shoes, socks, belts and cars! It is now a uniform to Steve that allows him to present his best self. Communication and interest and interaction with other people is an excellent way of creating good relationships with those around you. It is not dishonest to present a different aspect of your personality to each person, everyone does it. Our belief systems are formed in our formative years. The things we hear about ourselves become truth.  We often mistake our feelings of dislike for circumstance with a dislike for people. Our negative feelings sometimes bleed into interactions surrounding the circumstance we are uncomfortable with.   BEST MOMENTS ‘I think one of the things John, that I always start by saying is I think it’s so important in life to know our purpose and I think you’ve heard that said many times.’ – Steve ‘I’m often saying to people, if you ever want to learn anything, don’t try to reinvent the wheel. Just get a good book, even if you’re not into reading.’ – Steve ‘All of this stuff is stuff I’ve learnt from somewhere else. You know, I’m always reading articles and I’m not much of a book reader myself although I do have my own book. I like to read articles, like short snippets of information, that’s how I learn best.’ – John ‘The reality is we are kaleidoscopic people and personalities and do not want to adjust!? I mean, you’re a coach, you know this better than me.’ – Steve ‘I guarantee you that you will hold some memories of experiencing something in those early years that, if they’re not challenged, become stronger and stronger as each year goes on and develops into a belief.’ – Steve   GUEST RESOURCES Website and Contact : https://www.thespeakerwiththeorangetie.com/   VALUABLE RESOURCES To get in touch - email –  [email protected]  or book a complimentary call –  https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy           ABOUT THE HOST I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.  Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.   CONTACT METHOD Facebook –  https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn –  https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta –  https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
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