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EPISODE · Apr 14, 2026 · 50 MIN

Feeling It vs. Becoming It: How to Actually Process Your Emotions

from Occasionally Perfect · host Lexsi Lewis & Amber Borzotra

You've been told your whole life not to let your emotions control you, but nobody ever showed you what that actually looks like. Lexsi and Amber are finally having that conversation."Don't let your emotions control you" is one of the most repeated pieces of advice out there and also one of the most useless, because no one ever explains what to do instead. Lexsi and Amber dig into what it really means to feel your emotions without either suppressing them or spiraling into them. From hustle culture telling women to mute their feelings, to the 90-second science of how emotions actually move through your body, this episode gets into the stuff nobody taught us growing up.They talk about the difference between feeling sad and being sad, why naming your emotion out loud is more powerful than it sounds, and what it means when anger is actually just fear or disappointment in disguise. Lexsi opens up about the toxic 13-year relationship that taught her what real anger felt like, Amber gets honest about what happens when her emotions build up and explode, and they both make a case that maybe emotional intelligence isn't about control at all. It's about finally learning to listen.📲 Follow us on Instagram, TikTok & Facebook: @OccasionallyPerfecPod💬 Join our Circle Community where we do deep dives on episodes, hot topics, and occasional lives:https://occasionally-perfect.circle.so/feed

You've been told your whole life not to let your emotions control you, but nobody ever showed you what that actually looks like. Lexsi and Amber are finally having that conversation. "Don't let your emotions control you" is one of the most repeated pieces of advice out there and also one of the most useless, because no one ever explains what to do instead. Lexsi and Amber dig into what it really means to feel your emotions without either suppressing them or spiraling into them. From hustle ...

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