Fertility - Shame & Guilt

Experiencing failures when trying to conceive and the associated feelings of shame can be debilitating.  In this episode we talk about how shame can hold us back from making connections, getting the support you need and remind you that you are not defined by a failure and are never alone. Episode Notes 1:42 - definition of shame 3:24 - definition of guilt 5:32 - the difference between shame and guilt 6:39 - it’s not all on you, it’s not your fault 8:26 - an essential mindset shift to help deal with feelings of shame 10:13 - shame triggers 12:23 - shame requires constant self-talk 13:00 - judgement and your shame bubble 14:07 - when other things going well make your question yourself  15:07 - slipping into a lack of trust around others 16:55 - guilt and engaging with the world  20:01 - shame makes you question your identity 20:50 - separating yourself and facts from your thoughts  22:31 - what happens in a shame spiral 23:57 - the expectation reality gap 25:17 - feeling pregnant - motivator or fear? 28:43 - will my partner leave me? 30:16 - does visualisation work? 32:54 - the stories you tell yourself  34:17 - belonging and feeling accepted 35:58 - personality traits and building resilience 37:07 - the value in saying ‘everything is fine’ 38:05 - everyone needs a f*ck it switch 40:09 - unpicking your brain 42:29 - dealing with a Big Fat Negative 53:01 - you are not your failure 55:30 - navigating compassion and comfort 1:01:11 - we’re all human, emotions are normal Follow MYND.FLO to join the community