Finding The Balance of Power

Episode 43 of the The Relationship Guy podcast, hosted by John Kenny, titled "Finding The Balance of Power" was published on April 14, 2022 and runs 14 minutes.

April 14, 2022 ·14m · The Relationship Guy

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Summary

Every environment that you are in creates its own hierarchy of power and within relationships it can dictate how you feel and the level of control that you have. There are five bases of power in every psychological power dynamic no matter where you are or situation that you are in. Recognising power dynamics prepares you to be able to decide how much power you have, how much you hand over and how you can overcome the control others have over you. KEY TAKEAWAYS Reward power. When someone has something you want from them. Coercive power. Utilising punishment, common in abusive relationships. Expert power. This is deference to others due to their knowledge or skill. Legitimate power. Power which is granted by position and rank. This can also be linked to expert power, but rather than coming from your respect for their knowledge, it comes directly granted by structure. Referent power. This is when someone desires what someone else has. For instance, someone who desires a physique, social position or income of someone else and often wants to be close to and different to that person. BEST MOMENTS ‘Understanding power has a much more significant purpose. It allows you to reflect and understand why you listen to certain people and allow them to hold power over you.’ ‘It depends entirely on how much expertise you think someone has and how much that you think they have more than you.’ ‘Ignoring legitimate power can come with risk but it only works in a healthy way if both sides of the dynamic agree that it works for both sides.’ VALUABLE RESOURCES If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy ABOUT THE HOST I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose. CONTACT METHOD Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/  Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach} YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ Clubhouse - @relationshipguy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Description

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Reward power. When someone has something you want from them.
Coercive power. Utilising punishment, common in abusive relationships.
Expert power. This is deference to others due to their knowledge or skill.
Legitimate power. Power which is granted by position and rank. This can also be linked to expert power, but rather than coming from your respect for their knowledge, it comes directly granted by structure.
Referent power. This is when someone desires what someone else has. For instance, someone who desires a physique, social position or income of someone else and often wants to be close to and different to that person.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Understanding power has a much more significant purpose. It allows you to reflect and understand why you listen to certain people and allow them to hold power over you.’

‘It depends entirely on how much expertise you think someone has and how much that you think they have more than you.’

‘Ignoring legitimate power can come with risk but it only works in a healthy way if both sides of the dynamic agree that it works for both sides.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook –

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn –

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta –

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

 Twitter –